Sunday, November 16, 2008

a guide to flirting

Flirting is a fun form of personal interaction, usually expressing a sexual or romantic interest with someone you have your eye on. Some people seem to flirt effortlessly, almost without knowing they are doing it. Others, are a lil more shy and reserved, preferring to be lulled into initiating contact.

Whatever type you are there is always room for improvement, or begin learning how to be more appealing and seductive. Studies have proven that the flirting language in which a person communicates is 55% of their appearance and body language, 38% in the style in which they speak and only 7% of what is said. WOW!!

Yet, most men have no idea when a woman is flirting with them. Seriously. Unless she walks up to them, tears her clothes off, and screams "Take me now!" most men are completely oblivious to when a woman is sending out those "attraction signals." Furthermore, I have come to the conclusion that no matter where you are, 85% of the people around you find the ground completely absorbing. The general aversion to eye contact amazes me.

What signals are you enamating?? Flirting is generally about making someone else feel good, giving off positive vibes, sexy body language and showing interest.

I personally am a lover of love. I love to flirt and stir the pot. Flirting for me is a way to get someone to open up, to delve, to see how much of myself I can be and to get into their head. People have forgotten what it is to be truly flirtacious.

A great flirt has an air of mystery around themselves. They can speak volumes just with their eyes. The way they stare and hold a gaze. To be alluring, one must know how to allure.

1) Compliments - Most people love compliments and giving one is always rewarding. If you make someone feel good about themselves the chances are they will feel good about you too. Sincere and somewhat warm compliments will have the highest chance of success.

2) Eye contact - Direct eye contact is so powerful we normally restrict it to brief glances. Prolonged eye contact between two people indicates intense emotion. You can signal your interest in someone merely by holding their gaze for more than one second. If they maintain eye contact with you for more than one second, chances are they return your interest.

3) Body language - Most of us are quite good at controlling our expression. But while we’re busy controlling our expression, our real feelings show in our body language. Leaning forward, signals attentiveness and interest. Tilting the head to one side and side, slightly lowered head glances signals interest too.

Even though flirting at times is a means of expressing sexual interest, flirting can simply be innocent, with no intention of developing a further relationship. Flirtatious encounters are of naturally short duration. It’s understood there are no serious intentions, merely an ego-boosting acknowledgement of mutual attraction.

To learn more about seductive flirting tips, I highly recommend reading this:

The Secrets of Flirting With Men

Flirting Secrets! How To Flirt With Men: Popular Flirting Course With How To Meet His Hidden Psychological Needs Now!

Attract and Date Women Easily and Instantly

Guide On How To Flirt with Women So They Find You Totally Irresistible. You Can Pick Up And Be Dating Any Woman You Want.