Wednesday, February 11, 2009

sex with your date

To sleep or not to sleep with someone on the first date — or after a chance meeting, for that matter — is a decision most modern, hip daters face. Yet between husky purrs, succulent kisses and various attire strewn onto the floor, that decision often becomes an subsquent afterthought.

It can be hard to resist sexual advances on a first date. Signals of attraction are very seductive, like lip-licking, head tossing and hot, lingering stares. People have trouble resisting such opportunistic temptation, especially if they are with a sizzling hot risk-taker who wants to get nasty. Is sex on the first date a common occurrence? Has sex replaced the kiss at the front door?

Is sex right on a first date? There's no question of right or wrong in these cases. That's a judgement which reflects society's double standards on sex, particularly with regard to women.

I always used to think it was naughty to have sex on the first date because lots of guys are still in that double standards frame of mind where they think that if you put out too soon, you're seen as too easy, that you must be a slut, and therefore they will have no respect for you and won't want to see you again. But then sometimes you meet someone you're so attracted to, and it feels like love at first sight, the chemistry is explosive and you know that even if you sleep with them that first night, it will make no difference because there's such strong attraction bond and you're obviously sooooo into each other.

The one and only time I slept with someone on a first date, I ended up married to the guy, but I don't think it exists any more that men don't take a woman seriously if she does. And as you get older, you don't want to waste any time.

First dates are typically meant to get to know someone, to break the ice, so to speak, and to find out whether or not a second or third date is on the cards. First date etiquette, can mean nerves, trying too hard too impress, excess alcohol, and attempting your best at being a someone your date feels drawn to. Some of us can even be quite rusty in the dating dept, like starting to date again after a break up or divorce. Or dating for the wrong reasons, like trying to make an ex jealous. But lets face it, somewhere in the back of your mind when your sliding on your dior lip gloss and slipping into your Jimmy Shoo heels in preparation for date night, there is that burning question, will I or wont I?

I believe only the individual can answer that. Dating in the 21st century has evolved. We just do what feels right, dictated by our level of attraction, how comfy we are, and how they make us feel. There is no right or wrong in deciding to go all out or not. Everyone has their own personal reasons to have sex on the first date.

Sometimes people desire too but can be unsure, they have mixed questions going on in their head like:
If you have sex with someone on the first date you'll later wonder if the person still likes you..
if they'll call you again..
if they've been with other people and how many..
what type of future you'll have..
and so on.

and I say big friggen woop.. so what if they dont call, so what if they dont like you, big deal how may others they think youve been with.. and if theres no repeat date, ohh geez im gonna cry.. like get over it already.. lifes too short to be thinking like that. Date sex is usually a mutual agreement, one in which was entered into with both parties consenting, so why all the hang ups? You cant win sometimes. Friends have told me theyve stopped dating girls after the first date coz of their refusal to have sex on the first date, others have said they wouldnt want to see a girl again if she did, so I just say do whatever feels right.

Some feel its better to wait, others want to start things off with a bang, (pun intended) either way, theres no right or wrong. What are your thoughts?

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