Friday, December 12, 2008

dating married men

according to Dr Kamal Khurana, a marriage and relationship counselor explains, "Women who fall for married men are usually seeking attention and emotional support. Since married men seem to be more experienced and mature, they get attracted towards them. Owing to their experience, married men understand the emotional needs and desires of women better than their single counterparts. However, men usually get attracted to other women as a result of a deficiency or a lack of satisfaction (emotional/sexual) in their present relationship. "

although prolly ashamed to admit it, many women are involved in affairs with married men. A study published in the Journal of Couple & Relationship Therapy in 2002, revealed that 45-55% of married women and 50-60% of married men engage in extramarital sex at some time or another during their relationship. This gives us an idea about how much extramarital affairs are on a all time high.

some of the reasons men and women stray are:

ego boost the newness and attraction experienced early in the marriage, wears off and routine sets in. When we meet people outside the marriage and they find us attractive, it can be a huge ego booster. More than often, affairs can be reassurances that we still got it and can still attract members of the opposite sex. Also a huge number do so to escape the huge responsibilities that plague them at home. Kids, the job, paying the bills, they long for some fun and relaxation, take their minds off the drudgery for a while.

boredom again, married couples lives fall into humdrum routine, and they do not have the time or the know how on how to revive them. This creates a feeling of being taken for granted and not being given enough attention, this naturally leads to partners seeking to gain satisfaction elsewhere.

getting even sometimes, an affair is used to get back at a partner who has cheated. As a way of saying fuck you, look at me, I can do it too, even when their intention was not to cheat in the first place. These affairs usually are of short duration, just to satisfy the getting even part and to prove to their partner they can still attract others.

sexual dissatisfaction another common reason both partners stray is dull or non existant sex at home. They may have mismatched or flagging sex drives, and an affair is used as an outlet purely for the sexual adventure thrill factor. A neglected partner may think something is wrong with them, and an affair can serve to reassure that they are indeed a confident, highly sexual being.

why do men and women seek out married lovers?

I believe a high proportion has commitment phobia issues, and do not want to enter a full on commited relationship. So by having affairs they feel safe. They can have all the perks without having to wash his socks or pick up after him.

The powertrip, pure and simple. Some enjoy being the "other" person. Being treated prolly even better than what they treat their married partner. More sex, more attention, flowers, gifts, the forbidden often a turn on.

Most articles about dating married men are designed to tell us DONT! STOP! and with good reason. I speak from experience when I say this. dating a married man coz his marriage was sexless apparently. WAKE UP GUYS! First of all thats a lie, coz most cheaters are liars. Their stories are only half truths and one-sided. The reason your wife may not be interested in sex is coz that you are not offering sex that exciting, so off you go and try to prove to yourself that it isnt you. Life is tough. Think about when you were getting your brains fucked on a regular basis. What were you doing differently then? paying attention, surprize nights out, compliments, making her feel like a million dollars? I'll bet my life that if you start doing those things again, the spark will return.

Is it worth risking everything? Divorce? losing the respect of your family? exposure? financial ruin? (kiss goodbye to half of everything) even if he leaves his wife for you, the sex will eventually go stale after a while, and the vicious cycle will begin once again. My relationship with my married lover lasted a total of 4 years. 4 years to come to the conclusion that the grass isnt always greener on the other side, that for whatever shallow reasons we came together eventually we got to see the light.

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