Friday, March 16, 2012

why the single woman wont commit

welcome to the noughties.

I hear it all the time, men moaning about there isnt women that are interested in commitment, family and stability. For the noughties women, commitment means compromise. Social climate change has brought to table, choices. For the modern woman, the social developments from the past 20 years has been phenomenal. Salaries have increased across the board, women are excelling more than ever academically giving access to more career choices and finanical stability.

With financial stability comes the ability to self sustain such a lifestyle, she has the opportunity to finance purchases like apartments, cars, investments, businesses. A new breed of female dominance has emerged. One that has the woman equate a commited relationship identical to giving something up.

She has moved beyond the helpless feeling of needing someone and is actively seeking a self-sufficient pro-creative lifestyle. As she moves onto her own independance, she develops an acute sense of taste and knows what she is looking for when it comes to dating material. She has grown tired of all the lame outdated dating advise. She sees a commited relationship as something that is not for keeps, a union that she selectively choose to compliment her rather than have her compromise.

However successful the modern woman, her biological clock is still ticking. There are plenty of career focused women opting not to have children and the ones that do have choices. It is clear that women will not compromise their lives for the sake of a relationship.

I don't have all the answers to this issue, but I do see that women are increasingly dominant in relationships, whilst the guys have simply lost their direction. Whilst a woman may want her man to act like a man, it is a man with conditions. It may not be that women can't commit, it may simply be that they don't have to anymore.