Thursday, May 6, 2010

older woman younger man.. the cougar factor

your on that great night out with friends, when almost instantly you spy him from across the room.. a wink.. a smile.. a few dances.. drinks and conversation... you suddenly realise this perfect specimen before you is a few years younger.. in fact alot younger!

Hollywood has long dictated that the ideal pairing is the suave worldly older man with a stunningly beautiful woman on his arm.. and with the social stigmas of labels like cradle snatchers, older women not that long ago were made to feel ashamed of their desire for the younger male.. but these days thanks to couples like Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher many more May-December romances are on the increase!

According to a recent AARP poll almost one-third of women between ages 40 and 69 are dating younger men (10 or more years younger) and one-sixth of women in their 50s, in fact, prefer men in their 40's.

For most older women bouncing back from a divorce.. and now free of the burdens of raising kids.. are finally financially settled.. more sexually attuned to their needs.. and adventurous.. choosing a younger mate is almost instinctual.. most older women are not after the proverbial white picket fence.. but instead are choosing fun.. adventure.. and a companion to share the fun times..

The increasingly common coined term of "40 is the new 30" couldnt ring true enough in todays day and age.. older women now have more options.. in careers.. having kids.. looking after themselves.. progressive medical advances.. and are looking better every day, and for their part.. younger men find older women appealing because of their confidence.. less sexual hang-ups.. and their desire to experiement and generally finding them much more interesting than their younger counterparts.

For me personally, dating 30 year olds again in my 40's has certainly been exciting! as we get older we can get set in our ways.. and its refreshing to meet someone that can shake you out of your comfort zone and share the same intensity about life. A guy that is attracted to a woman who knows what she wants and who she is.