Thursday, December 31, 2009

happy new year

heloo everyone.. I hope U still love me lol its been a while since ive posted I know.. 2009 has been a very rollercoaster year both in good and not so good.. one thing im grateful for is being given another chance at life.. I think thats my highlight of this year..

I do apologise for the lack of posting.. as many of you know I have been writing poetry of late at my Miz Helenas rants site which you may like to read if U havent already.. I write a mixture of BDSM, love, friendship, feelings, thoughts

go here to catch up>>

Miz Helenas Rants

I want to take this opportunity to wish all my friends a very happy and sexy new year 2010.. and mizzy does promise to come back with more fresh posting.. of a more personal nature.. which I hope U enjoy!!

Tuesday, July 28, 2009

the importance of using the correct lube for anal sex

As much as we love anal sex, there are a few that are quite clueless that know what is the correct lube to use. This is a very important part of preparation for anal sex, for comfort and safety reasons. Firstly, the anal passage lacks its own natural lubrication, can be quite sensitive, tight and suseptible to minor cuts. Therefore, the correct lube is of paramount importance.

There are lots of lubes on the market. Water based, oil based, desensitising, natural, flavoured, silcone based, warming, cooling, tingling, enhancing, & moisturising. However, the safest and most practical lube for anal sex is plain water based ones. Water based lube is longer lasting and thicker textured which is suitable for anal sex. The use of oil based lube can weaken the rubber of the condom, so is best avoided and reserved for regular vaginal sex, masturbation or private indulgance with sex toys. Under no circumstances should you use a spermicide/HIV lubed condom, as this can be very irratative. Nonoxynol-9 the common ingredient found in these condoms was created for use as an industrial cleaner. It is abrasive and may cause cuts to the anal passage, thus increasing the chances of spreading disease.

If fear of pain is causing some apprehension of trying anal sex, you may find a water based desensitising lube more to your liking. This not only lubricates, but also has additional benefit of creating a slight numbing sensation that can help reduce the pain.

For a truly smooth almost pain free anal sex experience, the selection and use of the correct lube is important for both partners. Getting it right first go will enhance your experience and definately make it more pleasurable. For you guys thats good news, as a happy satisfied partner will want to repeat the performance. What fun that would be to have a willing sexually attuned partner ready for anal sex whenever you are.

Here are some of the lubes I highly recommend for comfortable anal sex:

desensitising water based lube

plain water based lube

plain water based lube

Saturday, July 25, 2009

my first year at twitter

TWITTER is no doubt the most fastest growing social network platform esp in the last 12 months. There really is no right or wrong way to 'tweet' in my opinion, despite all the so called "twitter etiquette how tos", people flock to twitter for very diverse and equally different reasons, for some its to build and establish their biz and for others purely for the interactivity.

I am one of those people. I have been using twitter now for aprox a year and have many times come close even to calling myself a "twitaholic". My usage of twitter has varied. I find I get into different "twittering moods". For example, I may use music or quotes to put forth my feelings, ramble, sneak in subtle innuendo, interact, post links to my articles or fun stuff and generally try to make others feel good about themselves.

All in all, twitter has taught me alot in human behaviours. I have learnt people can be shallow, kind, mean, caring, uncaring, rude, straightforward, quiet, selfish, happy, mushy, pushy, almost every kind you can find on twitter. This is what makes it quite a good mix I find, esp with my moods. Sometimes I cant stand all mushy goodness and all I want is someone to stand up and tell it like it is, expose the raw human emotions of this life, and other times all I want is pinky softness and backrubs. Twitter gives me this, so I just slot myself in and become one of the crowd. Singulary, we may think we dont contribute much, but as a collective, I believe we are a very powerful voice.

Twitter too is responsible for my decision to cull back my use of social networks. It wasnt that long ago that I became a member of every major SN out there, you name it I was there. But in the end it all got so time consuming, not to mention it eating away at your valuable productive time. So thesedays twitter serves as an all in one service for me. I can post links, photos, videos, pass on relevant info to my followers all thru twitter, without having to use seperate networks. It saves me alot of time and allows me to concentrate my efforts in one place rather than stress at the thought of updating stuff everywhere. Just the way I like it.

Twitter yes is here to stay, and I believe will keep expanding. I have enjoyed my first year at twitter, have met some wonderful people, learnt alot, and equally been taught alot. Freedom of speech rules and everyone big and small alike have their right to express themselves.

Followers come and go its a fact of life. You cant make everyone happy, but there is a market for everyone, whatever point your trying to make. Below is an interesting audio from the editor at large from the Oxford Dictionary on the findings of their closely studying twitter behaviours.

Thursday, July 16, 2009

A sensual massage in the bathtub

One of the ways a woman gives herself a relaxing treat is by soaking in a long, hot bath so you can take this opportunity to really giver her a treat by preparing a bath for her. Of course, with other ‘extra treats’ as only you can provide.

How to Prepare a ‘Proper’ Bath for Her

No guys, a bath is not just filling the tub with hot water and pouring some bubble bath solution in it. If you’re going to do this, do it good and create the right ambiance for her.

First, close the windows and blinds and submerge the whole bathroom in darkness. Next, light some candles. They can be scented or not depending on what you use for the… scented oil you want to place on the burner or oil diffuser.

So for example, if you’re using vanilla oil on the oil diffuser, don’t use strawberry-scented candles as the heady, super sweet smells will most likely give you both a headache. Aim for one scent or like what’s mentioned above, use non-scented candles if you’re going to burn scented oils.

Also, don’t scrimp on the candles ok? The more, the merrier!

Next, put on some soothing music and make sure it’s not too loud or too soft. To test this, turn the music on and go into the bathroom and close the door a bit. Check if the music level is just right.

Next, make sure everything you need is within reach. It’s not good if you break the sexual massage all the time by running out of the bathroom! Plus, it’s not good for the overall warm temperature in the bathroom. Just put everything you need on a tray and set this on the toilet or on a small chair.

Don’t forget a few edible treats. A glass of wine or champagne and a platter of crackers and cheese are sexy and will make you both last long during the sexual massage.

To learn more about the right techniques to satisfy her in bed, go to techniques to satisfy her in bed

Sexual Massage Moves in the Bath

For starters, let her soak in the bath for about 5 to 10 minutes just to loosen her tight muscles and wracked nerves. Don’t join her in the bath just yet.
Start sexually massaging her while you’re still outside the tub. Sit on the edge or pull up a chair and use a wooden massage roller and move this along her body.

You can also position yourself at the top edge of the tub so you can massage her head. Slip your hands under her shoulders and then draw them up and out. A variation of this step is to pull your hands along the underside of the head, with your fingers against the back of the neck.

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Feel free to shampoo her hair too. The pressure of your hands on her scalp in combination with the soft suds of the shampoo will feel great. Besides, this is the beauty of a sexual massage in the bathroom, no cares for the all the water and soap that might spill on the floor.

Now, without breaking your massage strokes, climb into the bathtub and join her. Sit behind her with her back to yours (sort of like spoon to spoon). Start massaging her shoulders and work your way to her lower back. And now comes the best part… massaging her front.

Start by reaching over and cupping her breasts (gently!). You can use the soap suds or better yet, put more soap gel on your hands and start massaging her breasts as if you were trying to create a lot of lather!

Tease her by massaging her breasts, moving to her shoulders, going back to her breasts, going down and rubbing her stomach, back to hear breasts again. Each time, be a bit more daring and go lower and lower her front. For instance, just massage or ‘clean’ her belly button with your finger and then go back to her breasts before going down to her pubic area.

Here’s a naughty tip for you: unless your woman has gone Brazilian (i.e., has had all her pubic hair shaved off) you can try ‘shampooing’ her hair down there! Simply apply the same strokes you would as if you were washing her hair.

As a climax to this hot tub sexual massage, you may go ahead and insert your finger in her ‘sweet spot’. Remember, this should be part of the sexual massage and should not be seen as the sexual act itself so be gentle while you finger her. The objective is not to make her come but to simply ‘connect’ with that special place as well. Good luck!

Try my HOTTEST tips to satisfy her tonight and you will have her begging for more tomorrow…and the next day…and the next day. Go to:female oragsm revealed

about the author:

Gabrielle Moore is an expert on female intimacy.. teaching men and women the true art of seduction.. mindblowing sexual techniques and new and exciting ways to please your lover

Wednesday, July 8, 2009

have you ever had anal sex?

anal the taboo forbidden desire... not all of us love it or have had it.. but the majority do think about it and quite a few have engaged in it.. whether its with a regular partner.. gay/bi/straight.. with total strangers.. sex workers.. masturbation.. anal does cross our minds and most of us love it and get turned on by it.. xxtreme anal and double penetration anal we see alot of in movies.. and it looks ohh so hot and tempting.. but how many of you have actually had anal?.. and how often and in what way?.. take the time to fill in this poll so we may all find out just what you freaks are into and what turns you on about anal.. do u use protection?.. lube?.. have you experienced ass to mouth?.. oral in the anal area? .. anal with a stranger?.. gay/bi anal?.. have you used anal toys?.. do u enjoy anal xxtreme?.. have you ever been an ass slave?.. do you worship butt?.. are you concerned about any mess?..have you ever been fisted anally?.. does anal hurt?.. do you prefer anal to regular sex?.. i could go on and on about anal..

be honest and answer as many that apply.. all info is anon so let have sum fun and find out what turns us on.. and lets share the knowledge..

its pretty straight forward.. just select your answers.. and cast your votes!!

Monday, June 29, 2009

men love to be fingered in the ass

It's not just girls who love the odd finger or two slipped in our ass during foreplay or sex. And it's not just girls who can be fucked with a few fingers and a lover's tongue. Guys get off on it just as much, as you'll find out......

'I don't remember how we got there, but it hardly took any time at all. I hurriedly showed her around my flat, which she surveyed with a polite lack of interest until we reached the bedroom........

We both stared at my unmade bed. For minutes. 'You can get into bed without any help, right?' she whispered eventually, as if not wanting to disturb the charged atmosphere our mutual heavy breathing had cast in the small room.


'Well go on then.' She said.

Within moments we were in the bed, both naked and her mouth was clamped on mine. She was rough, driving her way inside and sucking brutally on my lower lip. Her skin against mine felt so good. It was all I could do not to come just from the sound of her rapid heart-beat and the feel of her heat.

She moved from my mouth, nipping her way across my cheek until she reached my ear. 'I want to fuck you with my mouth,' she hissed.

I laughed. 'Don't you mean you want me to fuck you with my mouth?'

'No.' She rolled me onto my stomach with an impassioned sigh. Once I was positioned the way she wanted, she straddled my legs and bent down to flicker her tongue across my exposed buttocks. I flinched, uneasy, not sure if this was something I wanted but somehow I couldn't find the words to tell her to stop. So I quivered there beneath her as she let her tongue dart everywhere. Absolutely everywhere.

I gasped when she nudged at my little hidden hole, at the same time splaying me with one hand so that I was open and wanton for her. And then I found myself moaning as she teasingly let her tongue lap over that hot little mouth, again and again, until it was so hungry that I was thrusting my hips up to meet her every caress. Aching. Aching for something. Anything. More.

Responding to my desperate thrusting, she pushed the very tip of her tongue gently inside me. I was so needy and desperate for her by that point that I bucked like an animal, half begging and half sobbing, my face buried in the pillows while my desperate erection ground against the mattress.

Thankfully my frustration didn't last long. One of her hands snaked underneath me, forming a lubricated fist around my cock. I thrust into the warm soft well gratefully. Seconds later her tongue, which was starting to feel hopelessly small inside me, was replaced by a finger, then two, and the most amazing sensation as she stroked her way inside me with her other hand, fucking me decisively. I'd never felt anything like it.

And in moments, with her hands manipulating me from every direction, I was spasming for her soaking the sheets beneath me, half screaming, half blacking out.'

She held me for a long while after that, brushing my hair away from my face, waiting until I had recovered. Eventually I found I could speak again. 'If that was a pity fuck,' I breathed, 'then I think I do need your pity.'

'She propped herself up on her elbow and looked down at me. 'It's only a pity if we don't do that again,' she said, emphasizing her point with a brief kiss before clambering from the bed and walking naked into the kitchen of my tiny flat.

***** taken from "Mathilde Madden's Wheels On Fire, published in Wicked Words 10: The Best Of Wicked Words (Black Lace)"

Sunday, June 28, 2009

where has the love gone?

one thing that i noticed when coming home from the train station tonight is the lack of togetherness couples have....have anyone noticed this??.....theyre out walking their dogs....with such long chatter amongst holding togetherness as a love....common...whats up ppl...???...why are you all like that???...

in this world we take so many things for granted dont we??...why cant we show some love for one another??? it too hard too???...would we be seen as weak if we do show love???...why cant we laugh together or even have a conversation???? it that difficult???...what example are we showing our kids???....we need to make a stronger effort to show & display our feelings for one another....

when our partner goes away or dies why is it that we only then remember that we didnt do enough together & that we wish we could have done more??...why???...we must learn to appreciate our partners & learn to live in the now....cherish every God given moment together....learn to fully experience everything as a couple....because you dont know whats around the corner do you???...what if you both had a massive fight then one leaves for the day to go to work...still having a long face & not even bothering to even say see you later tonight.... have a nice day and a quick kiss....then the partner is killed during a accident on the way to would you feel knowing he or she left this world with both of you not speaking to each other& showing your love for one another???....

live each day as if its your not take advantage of you never know whats around the corner for any of or txt your darling and tell them how much you love them right now...pick up the phone & dial...its not such a big deal is it??'ll find them pleasantly surprized with your sudden call...& you can be guaranteed lots of loving attention when they get home....all simple things one can do for the sake of keeping love alive....make an effort to dress nice & keep up grooming habits...

do not make the mistake of thinking well ive got them now theyre mine I dont need to make an effort wrong you it doesnt work like that....keep spontaniety alive by doing outrageous things on the fly...plan a picnic....or a night of intense love-making....making an effort to be your sexiest will open new desires within yourselves.....keep the romance alive....go out to a romantic dinner or a walk along the beach hand in hand....dont be afraid to show your it often...its not a sign of weakness but a sign of great the lines of bring back that spark.... love has its rewards....

sometimes i really envy couples that have been together for a long time....obviously they have the winning formula for keeping love alive....that loving spark aglow....what a brilliant feeling that is....dont you think...???....yes ppl we all do need to make a conscious effort to keep love alive within our dull relationships...same goes for they can go stale too....try to do differnt things....experiment with what you both like...& introduce it in slowly.....keep friendships alive.....after all isnt it our friends we turn to in times of need???...what if they werent there in those times of need because we failed to do things needed to keep that friendship????'ll be kicking yourself wouldnt you???....

sometimes we need to swallow our pride....for the sake of our not feel that making an effort will make you seem the knows no such has no boundarys....follow your heart and you cant go wrong....the love in our heart will lead the way....the love in our heart will always rises above all....& conquers all....

I do hope i have given you all something to chew on with the above on love & relationships....if we all made a conscious effort the world would be such a better place to live in for all...

until next time....sending you all my love & good wishes...
Miz Helena XX

Saturday, June 27, 2009

dating: stud or dud?

Hello all you super freaks ,

hope everything is super kool and groovy in your world...hey gather round and get ya freak on...i have a very popular topic i wanna mmm remember that kool G-funk track Regulator?? (by Nate Dog and Warren G) guaranteed to get you in the mood....mmmm...kool smooth sexy track...its in my ears right now just had to mention it back now

ok lets talk about that HOTT date everyone...ok girls/guys...weve all been there before.. havent we?? know...spending all day Saturday preparing ourselves for that special date on Saturday nite....waxing, make up, clothes, hair, shoes, matching bags, zit free face, everything has to be perfect doesnt it?? and if its not then you call it off...familiar right??...yes well ive been there too my friends...

met a really kool guy online early last year in Syd that i started seeing (made sure i checked him out first off course...making sure he was who he said he was...he got me to check work...home...friends...clubs memberships...and everything was as he said it felt ok )..he is a real gentleman ...

we went out on some really fab fun dates...usually to dinner first followed by dancin till the small wee early hours then going back to his place and picking each others brains out...i would say this guy was a 10 on the scale of 0-10...with his dating ettiquette...he knows and understands women...perfect score as far as i was concerned...

let me explain why I think he was the perfect date...
1) he was always on time...ALWAYS...I hate it when a guy keeps me waiting...I get nervous and fidgety...I prefer to keep him waiting..somehow a guy can always accepts there is some waiting around at times

2) he always holds my hand when we are out walking together...lets everyone around know that we are a item...not neccessarily a couple...but still an item..I like that when a guy can do that freely scores points with me....

3) is always attentive..I would have his full attention at dinner...chatting holding hands...laughing together..and also very complimentary...this guy knew exactly what women are all about and he knew what they liked and wanted...he notices when a woman dresses and makes an effort to look nice and pays her a compliment..scores points again with me...(taking notes guys??) definately will learn by its a good thing to do so....

4) He introduces me to all his friends..and my title is not a mere "hey mate this is a friend of mine" introduces you as his date..some guys can be gutless and get scared shitless when their friends are around and dont know how to address their dates so they dont bother giving her a title..just saying "this is Julie" for example...

5) He keeps asking if im ok...did I wanna go or stay or go somewhere else...keeps checking with me in other words...just to see if I was ok or was bored...or wanted to do something else instead...(points accumulating here fast) this time, if he continues like this.. I could very easily fall in love :D

6) always pulls you close when out close that you can feel the warmth of his body next to yours...smell his cologne...and feel his breath on you...very sensual...very passionate...mmm...again scores high...(should also have a love-o-meter going here measure the love vibes... Razz

7) always thoughtful...always asking me what I want to do...not just deciding on what he we make decisions together...scoring plenty again....

ok well ive rambled on a bit here now...but I wanted to make it clear just what I think a great date is..perhaps I set too high standards??? do you think I do??..I dont think so...I just thrive on all of his passion for life and his healthy respect for women

ok just as theres the studs...theres the dud....xx

ohhh noooo the desperate date from HELL...I think you know the kind right?...tries too hard...desperate...inconsiderate...very quiet until he gets plastered to mask his insecurities...and gathers some dutch courage....tries to be something their not....treats you as a possession..and becomes a leach...sulking even if you talk to anyone else...hanging off you practically...oh my....whats up guys??..lighten up

let me tell you all of my date from HELL ...sometimes I even question myself the things I get myself

a client from work became close over me his address and number and constantly asking me out...everytime he use to see me he would always say i love you..and be very passionate around me...nothing wrong with being passionate..esp if your European like he was....

anyways,.. one night I agreed to go..but was a little apprehensive i remember ..but told myself he was a regular loyal client.. so after meeting him in a club.... the night began...OMG...what a disaster it ended up being..almost from the start...he started becoming a real royal prick...constantly disagreeing and arguing with me...over minor shit too like what I should drink...what I should be wearing...not to walk around and talk to anyone...putting me down....the drunker he got the worst he became..

his insecurities began to surface..and rear their ugly heads...I couldnt wait to get out of there...he must of sensed this and he started to become clingy...always a date fizzler for me..feeling suffocated and in need of sum breathing space... his mood changed dramatically.. becoming almost nasty.. tongued..I had enough..I excused myself and went to get a cab home..he followed me to the rank...and started apologising... i wasnt falling for it though.. once a prick always a prick...and so arrogant.. NO THANKS..

I finally got home and ran a long bath and lying back ..went back over the events of the evening... I almost felt sorry for him.. I feel from what he told me he doesnt have much success with women and has become bitter over this...still no excuses to become like that...get on with things.. life a full positive...make the most of what youve got... once your life is in order and your happy..the rest will ..happiness .. soulmate even...

whatever you do guys...WARNING...YOU STAND OUT A MILE LONG if this is you..

so yes...this is my expriences with my date from HELL...not pleasant.. you may think im a shallow person when i tell you all this...but tell me honestly guys..lets reverse the situation here now...if your date was behaving like that..would you like it??...

I would love to hear of your dating disasters too...and of the hunnys that you may have dated as well.... yes I wanna hear everything you wanna say...

ok guys so now you know a little about the correct dating respectful.. confident.. suave...kool..ooze sex appeal (comes with being confident and positive) mostly just be you...without any false courages...your date will sure like you even even will seem sexier.. be edgy..project strength.. but also dont be afraid to show your vulnurable side .. it wont make you less of a man..

ok guys...what can you add to this??...feel free to post your comments. would like to hear any stories of your dates too... always interesting....

thanks so much for tuning in.. xx

Saturday, May 30, 2009

foreplay tips for him

Foreplay Tips for Him

So, you want to take the initiative this time and want to surprise your girlfriend /wife / lover with your foreplay skills. But then again, you realize that foreplay hasn’t been your ‘thing’ lately and you’re not sure what to do…

Well, lucky you! I’ve compiled these hot foreplay tips you can use ASAP so that you can have her breathing hard and lusting for your touch tonight!

Hot Tips for Sexual Foreplay

Sometimes, foreplay can be a disaster if you don’t know what you’re doing. For instance, you may have seen movies where he ‘tweaks’ her nipples… HARD. Well guys, you know what? That HURTS and you’re not really arousing her that way. So to guide your naughty thoughts, take heed of my foreplay tips below!

Don’t forget her neck. Often, guys think of foreplay as ‘kissing’ and making love as ‘having sex’. Sorry guys, that’s way too simple for us girls. So during foreplay, don’t just kiss her thoroughly, pay attention too to other female body parts such as her neck, arms, legs, and even her feet. Alternate between kissing, licking and nibbling these areas and she’ll be putty in your hands in no time.

Mentally ‘sex her up’. It’s a fact. Guys go for visual stuff while women like to be mentally put ‘in the mood’. So if you’re planning for some hot sex tonight, start foreplay early during the day so she’s already in the mood by the time you reach for her at home.

For example, if you guys are standing on line for something, get close to her and whisper something REALLY DIRRRTY into her ear! Important: paint her a picture in her head. So don’t just say “I’m going to fuck you tonight”. Instead, say “You know babe, I’m horny now so when we get back home, I will lick your clit so good that…” I think you get my drift by now…

Learn how to master this and many other techniques. Go to: hot foreplay tips

Dry hump her. In its most generic sense, foreplay is all about ‘increasing the sexual tension’ so that you and your partner are uber-primed for the sexual act itself. Well, what’s more arousing than imitating intercourse movements (humping) than doing it with clothes on! Preferably, do this in a public place or in a club. Basically, do it where you cannot proceed to doing intercourse. This way, you guys will be h-h-hot for sex later!

Slow dance… while butt-naked. Ok, this time foreplay without clothes! You can just be half-dressed or completely naked for this one. Put on some slow and/or lusty music, dim the lights, light some candles, take some or all of your clothes off and start swaying to the music. Remember that the trick here is to dance close to her body so that she can feel your erection against her. Hot!

Go ‘under the table’. I just love sharing experiences from subscribers and here’s another one. One time, while Jill (subscriber name changed for privacy) and her husband were having dinner, they were getting a bit naughty and started to ‘play footsie’ under the table. This then proceeded to her fully extending her leg and with her foot, she started playing with his penis through his pants. What happened next shocked her…

Without warning, he went under the table, spread her legs, pulled down her shorts and tongued her! Jill swears the foreplay and the suddenness of his moves was the hottest sex and the best orgasm she ever had!

Try this one tonight and don’t worry if she’s wearing pants. Just rub your face against her mound and it will turn her so horny SHE will start to bring her pants down.

Read more about how to master these techniques at: foreplay techniques

Tease her till the very end. No, the fact that she has her clothes off does NOT mean it’s intercourse time. You can extend foreplay to the very end and bring her to delirious lust by using the head of your penis to tease her throbbing vagina. Just rub your the point of your manhood all over her vagina – especially her clit – and trust me, she’ll go wild with passion!

I hope you thoroughly enjoy these foreplay tips! Just remember to vary your ‘foreplay moves’. Otherwise, everything becomes routine again! So for example, tonight, tease her from head to toe with your kissing, licking and nibbling and then next time, just go directly to her clit and lick away. This way, you’re Mr. Surprise and foreplay and sex with you is the best experience she’ll ever have.


To learn more HOT tips to satisfy your lover in bed tonight, go to: hot tips to satisfy your lover

about the author:

Gabrielle Moore is an expert on female intimacy.. teaching men and women the true art of seduction.. mindblowing sexual techniques and new and exciting ways to please your lover

The Female Orgasm Revealed

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Friday, May 8, 2009

not alone

Under the stars
We run in the wind
Taking every single moment that we can
Look into your eyes
We run from the lights
Believe it but you can’t know how I feel
I can’t believe that you still think we’re friends
Like someone I just met, you can’t pretend
That you don’t feel the magic, tell your mind
And I am on a mission to show you how
These are moments you can’t live without
Knowing that you can’t ever say goodbye

And you feel
Like you’re all alone
Can’t you recover your heart and let it go?
And you see
Just how good we’d be
Just close your eyes now and let your body feel

And now you feel
Like you’re all alone
My love will surround you
In ways that you don’t know
And now you feel
Like it could be real
My love will surround you
Close your eyes and see

And out of this daze
Where memories were made
And tell you how the life you want to leave
Lightning will strike
In a way that you like
And fate will take its hand just come to me

I can’t believe you’re coming back around
For a moment you were there and you hit the ground
It’s almost like you started to believe
You say enough for me to know you tried
But everyting you’re feeling is stuck inside
Open up your heart and set us free

And now you feel
Like you’re all alone
Telling everybody
Nothing’s going on

And then you stood
Feeling so alone
It’s like everybody knows that I’m alone
I feel it in my skin
You know where I have been
There’s no need to cover
It’s time that you …

And then you stop…stop…stop…
Cause you feel
(Did you see how good we’d be)
So alone
(When you open up to me)
Not alone
(Did you see how good we’d be)
Not alone
(When you open up to me)
Not alone

Did you see how good we’d be, when you open up to me

- Gianluca Motta Ft Molly NOT ALONE

Tuesday, May 5, 2009

what guys really think

Watch this to find out the brutal truth about what guys are really thinking.. LOL

Tuesday, April 28, 2009

size queen reviewed

The size queen is the most daring sex toy purchase I have made. Solid, yet flexible, it really is heavy duty shit when it comes to femdom play or even that norty self indulgance. One word of warning: make sure you use a good quality lube for anal penetration, as it can be quite painful. *wink*

Product Description:

This is the Professional Grade Sex Toy for the not so faint of heart. This strap-on has a 10 hollow dong with ball sack and is 2.5 thick. The harness is equipped with rugged O`Rings and metal side rings to efficiently harness the monster dong that comfortably fits any size and is fully adjustable. Out with the dainty and frilly and IN with the heavy duty and rugged!

The Size Queen

The Size Queen

Sunday, April 26, 2009

the beast

This is the beast, a rare beauty..a 1973 HQ Holden Monaro GTS.. shes a wild one this is the vid I put together from pictures and the end has her driving away.. listen to that roarrrrr awesum!!

Wednesday, April 22, 2009

what men really want

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Sunday, April 19, 2009

Easter eggs

Hi guys its easter time and that means lots of yummy goodies. Painted eggs, profiteroles custard-filled, koulourakia, baklava, bbq'ed chestnuts, cristoli. we had a fabulous day, great food, lots of laughs, great debates, venting, perfect fresh day. We even had a lushh sunshower

Friday, April 17, 2009

blow by blow fellatio book review

Blow by Blow Fellatio ­ Book Review

So we all know that men LOVE fellatio but not all women know how to do it properly. So is Michael Webb’s latest edition worth reading? Let’s find out…

After just reviewing a book on oral sex of the female variety (cunnilingus), I have to say I’m now a BIG believer in guides on oral pleasure. It really does take more work than just an up and down motion.

Okay, so while there are many interesting sections in this book including health and safety, diagrams and anatomy, shaving and waxing and visual stimulation, the REAL heart of the book is in the techniques section.

The book contained 15 techniques in total, which range from obvious all the way to techniques I’d never heard of before! Yes, there’s much more than just suck! And if you’ve ever wanted to know how to deep throat or ever felt too scared to try, you’ll appreciate this in the advanced techniques section, although it would have been nice if it went into a little more detail.

Also, I really enjoyed the section on “building anticipation” which helps men have a more powerful and satisfying orgasm. And it was nice to see that the whole trouble with “getting it up” problem was solved with some very impressive ideas too!

However, probably the best thing about the book was that the locations, positions and new sensations sections really help inspire you to come up with your own ideas and ways to spice up fellatio and keep it exciting ­ because it’s almost always the same.

So were there any down points? Sure. I found many of the other sections a little tedious and a little boring. I mean, some were interesting, like the health and safety, but I often found myself sneaking a peak at the techniques section before coming back and reading it again properly.

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Thursday, April 16, 2009


Oh oh
I could make you

We could make it if I met you in a different head space
I could make you

We could shake it if I met you in a different head space
I could shake you

We could fake it if I met you in a different shitty place
I could fake it


Oh oh
I could make you

Wednesday, April 15, 2009

catholic confession gets an upgrade

This video is just PML funny.. thx to @Blokeslib.. this is definately a must for epi.. have fun.. and no matter what you do... always check the confessions box first!! LOL

Monday, April 13, 2009


its pityful,
we can't rewind the things we've been
So depart, vanish if you long
Just walk
before you're eaten by the bitterness

im looking at you
unabatingly thrashing
torcherous and bare
unplugging yourself
are you longing to breathe?

delve with me
lets wash ourselves clean
even so
that feeling was somewhere sometime ago
of craving passion rawness anew
watching each wobbly step unfold

i have my eye on pause
as the mind replays
resets and sinks
dream, dream on
thats all I have
and its madness

I wont fall without you
thats yet to come
give to me the words
that I know oh so well
avoiding because
they are the ones that undo

Miz Helena

Saturday, April 11, 2009

the latest from aweber

Monday, March 30, 2009

are you sexually frustrated?

There are many manuals that attempt to teach us about how we can satisfy our partner in bed, and we've all prolly read them a hundred times over. However, the mystery still remains!

Men are from Mars and women are from Venus!

Today im taking time out to discuss the popular topic of female orgasm, which I feel even in todays modern age, is still a largely unexplored area. The reasons for this is many. Society on a whole is responsible for dictating that in bed, although we are highly sexual beings, his orgasm remains the paramount goal. Its OK if she doesnt, in fact, we are conditioned to think its not that important, that reaching one is not even an objective!

While many couples trudge on thru life and accept this, at a deeper level it can be the root of many sexual frustrations that permeate into other areas. You will prolly not even notice its happening and what the causes are. But sexual frustration is real and it can be dangerous.

Lets explore this a lil deeper. As we said, men and women are definately a breed of their own, and these differences are apparent in the bedroom. When it comes to sex, men usually are the ones that climax sooner than what we women do.

During the courtship period, alot of time is spent getting to know our partner, taking the time to learn what they enjoy and what turns them on. The sex is mindblowing coz of the genuine desire to please and satisfy! We continuously are thinking of new and exciting ways to experiment with and indulge.

After sometime together, things can grow stale. We stop trying, sex becomes almost a chore, an activity we perform out of duty. Which is kinda sad. Many times have I seen couples out on my walks.. and im quite shocked at seeing them just striding along, no conversation, no holding hands, no affection.. and I think to myself, they look so unhappy, which naturally has me thinking their sex life is definately lacking!!

Some guys can be selfish too. Like we discussed, guys do tend to reach orgasm much faster than women do and when they do its all over! They roll off and start snoring! Meanwhile the woman is slowly cursing under her breath and wondering why she even bothers! Not to mention the negative feelings she manifests associated with frustration, like "Has he gone off me?.. "Is he cheating?".. "Whats gone wrong?" Oh my does this sound familiar?

This slowly creates resentment, which in turn can lead to other behaviours such as reduced sexual intimacy, infidelity, sexual frustration, relationship withdrawl. She may seem to nag you, finding fault in everything you do, and lose interest. Pretty soon, sex is going to look a whole lot less appealing, as she turns to self pleasuring and finding she gets more pleasure masturbating. This isnt harmful in itself, there are plenty of men that get off on the thought of their partners using toys and fingers, but it does become a problem if self pleasuring is used as a permanent solution rather than trying to achieve orgasm with your lover.

Relationship Withdrawl .. when sex is constantly a disappointment, this can lead to the woman withdrawing. She avoids moments of intimacy, and the longer this goes on the further apart you will drift.

Infidelity.. Its a real possibility when your sex life is sexually frustrating. For the woman, its usually more than just seeking sexual fulfillment, it goes deeper, to a more emotional level. She wants reasurrance that shes still attractive, craves romance, wooing, and the spontaniety of a new lover that takes the time to explore and satisfy. Women are fed up with the same old routine, and if it has been allowed to go on long enough, she will feel awkward asking for things to change. Therefore, she ends up with someone else rather than trying things differently.

Resentment.. sooner or later, resentment starts to manifest itself in other areas in your relationship. She will seem always on your back for one thing or another. Men will usually pass this off as her having a bad day or "that time of the month" . Instead of taking the time to discuss these issues with her partner, her mind starts playing her, and start a whole new level of negativity circulating. This has a habit of exploding during the tiniest of situations we normally dont bat an eye to, which leads us to say things we dont mean to say.

Unfortunately, the art of communication is lost, and this is the key I believe to dealing with mismatched sex drives and sexual dyfunctions. Im speaking as a woman here, but this is two way. Both sexes can feel sexual frustration with their partner. We can re-learn the passion that drew us together in the first place. There is NO excuse why we cant. Job, kids, running a household all take time and great effort, but at the end of the day, we should all be making the time to connect and show the love. Divorces are very common these days and usually over the flimsiest of reasons, when we can avoid the situations that slowly lead up that path, but dont make the effort to. How sad.

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Thursday, March 26, 2009

a guide to talking dirty and cybersex tips

Hi guys, im here today to tell you all about my brand new ebook report launch A Guide To Talking Dirty and Cybersex Tips.

One of the questions I get asked constant is how can I become a great lover or cybersex lover and keep my partner wanting more. We ask ourselves things like "How do I begin?" "What do I say?" Yet, no matter how clueless we are, we all want to learn the words that will drive our partners crazy.

But lets face it guys, most of us ARE clueless when it comes to sexy talk with our lovers.

This has prompted me to write A Guide To Talking Dirty and Cybersex Tips. Now I dont claim to be a professional kinkstress whos words flow effortlessly everytime. NO. Im far from that!! Im just your average sweet girl next door who thru my association with my online sex toys business, EROTICSITY, has finally mastered the art of taking dirty and great cybering. My personal cybering encounters have been fun, some downright boring, even embaressing!! and now I pass my valuable tips onto you.

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Monday, March 23, 2009

words are so easy to say show me love

words are so easy to say.. you got to show me love.. action speaks louder than words.. so baby if you want me you gotta show me love.. show me show me baby..

Wednesday, March 18, 2009

date the hot women of facebook

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gaining control

First of all, we need to clarify something. What is premature ejaculation? Well, snoozing science stuff aside, all it really means is that you don’t last as long in bed as you really want to – you ejaculate too soon.

Just as you can lift weights to add muscle to your skinny frame, or practice your golf swing to lower your handicap, you can improve your sexual prowess and eradicate premature ejaculation forever.

One of the best ways to MASSIVELY improve your sexual arousal control in bed is by understanding your Point of No Return. Your Point of No Return, or PoNR, is the split-second before you climax and ejaculate. It’s that fleeting moment which, once passed, means you’ve completely lost control of your sexual arousal and that ejaculation is imminent and unavoidable. Most men know when they hit their own personal PoNR simply because they quickly become aware of the fact that they’re about to climax – an intense ‘glow’ of pleasurable sensations is usually what clues them in.

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Sunday, March 15, 2009

what girls really want in their relationships

The psychoanalyst Sigmund Freud once asked, “What do women want?” and, famously, he was never able to answer it. But what women want isn’t such a mystery. Relationship experts, sociologists and therapists have been studying the interactions between the sexes for decades, and they tend to agree on five basic things that woman require in a relationship.

1. Faithfulness.

It goes as far back as the cave-dwelling times, social archeologists say, when women were stuck tending the fire and raising the babies while their mate spent the day out hunting down dinner with a spear and a rock.

To stay safe and protect her young, she wanted the father of her children to come home at night, and it was nerve-wracking if her didn’t.

Now, you may use a computer keyboard and a Rolodex to keep food on the table instead of rocks and spears, but the same emotional concerns apply – she wants to know that you’ll be there when she needs you. It speaks to her most fundamental feelings about safety, and if she can’t trust you, it’s scary.

2. Kindness.

Forget the tough-guy act – women want men who are considerate, thoughtful and, above all, kind. They want someone who’ll put an arm around them when they cry, who’ll bring them a cup of soup when they’re sick, who’ll pet their dog and play Legos with their child.

They want to know that you’ll listen to how they got into a fender-bender and help them to feel better, not yell at them for wrecking the car. Women spend a lot of time nurturing others, and when they’re in a relationship they want to get a little nurturing in return.

Most women who have extramarital affairs report that it wasn’t sex that led them to stray, it was attention and understanding – they had affairs with men who listened to their problems and treated them with kindness. If they’d been getting that attention at home, they wouldn’t have felt the need to cheat.

3. Equality.

Women want to be a partner in a relationship, not a father or an overgrown child. In surveys about relationships, women overwhelmingly say that they want a partner who’ll stand by their side, be their best friend, and really listen to what they say – celebrating their successes and commiserating with their failures.

They want a man who will recognize and appreciate what she brings to the relationship, and not denigrate them to keep them in a lesser, secondary role. They want someone by their side who’ll encourage them to grow, and to achieve their dreams, knowing that being with a successful woman doesn’t make them any less of a man.

4. Helpfulness.

When asked what they’d most like to hear their husband or boyfriend say, most women answering surveys say they want to hear, “What can I do to help?”

As much as men hate being nagged by women, women hate nagging men – they really do. An offer to do some chore that isn’t usually your job, like laundry or the dishes, will make you a hero in a woman’s eyes.

While researchers have established that women have an ability to multitask that’s far superior to men’s, that ability makes many women take on more than they can comfortably handle.

Even if she doesn’t have children, the average woman’s day includes everything involved with her job plus cooking, cleaning, laundry, remembering birthdays, planning get-togethers, paying bills, mediating fights between family members ... and those six little words, “What can I do to help?” is like throwing a rope to a drowning woman. And remember, women are taught from childhood to see helpfulness as a sign of caring, so by offering her help you’re offering her emotional support, as well.

5. Respect.

Romance is all well and good, but in a long-term relationship, a woman wants your respect. She’s very likely holding down a full-time job, just like you, and maneuver her way through a world that still, no matter how smart and successful she may be, judges her by the thickness of her waist and the style of her shoes.

Women handle the bulk of the emotional work in their relationships (and, often, on the job, too) and studies show that they still do most of the housework even if they work full time.

And yet, almost every day they meet at least one man who thoughtlessly demeans them, whether it’s by saying, “You’d look much prettier if you were smiling!” or by calling them “sweetheart” and speaking to them as if they haven’t a brain in their head. Women want to be respected for the enormous amount of work they do, for how hard it is to juggle everything that they have on their plate, and how much emotional support they give the people around them.

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Saturday, March 14, 2009

friends with benefits

Hi All,

Wow what a lovely Sunday and weekend Ive been having. Saturday was me day.. I took myself off to the beautician for a day of pampering. I got a pedi, manicure and a mild dermabrasion facial. My facial skin now feels smooth and fresh. I usually get these treatments done every 3 months or so and try more often in the summer months. Saturday night Mr C and I escaped for some pool and a few drinks with some friends in town, later spending the night at his place watching all night DVD's.

Sunday it was the usual family BBQ gettogether.. and then an afternoon drive to our usual haunt.. which we decided to have some fun at. As you all know from.. Epifanny On A Sunday we played out a re-enactment with an 'alternate' erotic outcome. I am in the midsts of writing about this encounter as we speak and should have it published in a few days. So make sure to look out for it. I will of course announce it in the DATING GAME FORUM as I do so.

Anyways.. tonight, as we were sitting at the beach, we began delving into the more interesting aspects of our relationship. It seems his stubbornness has finally effected any chance for him to get back with his ex, (yes its complicated) despite of constant urges of what should be done. Although it may sound complicated, im not in the traditional sense the other woman. No. It has never been that way. Its more an exclusive friends with benefits type of arrangement, that has just worked well for both of us. I cannot see him as my fulltime boyfriend, nor do I desire to be in the girlfriend/wifee role. What is that exactly? Well you know, picking up after him, cooking, washing up after him.. taking his shit.. no thanks.. so in this way we have the best of both worlds.. we live apart.. have seperate independent lives.. but we urgently come together for fun times and for friendship.. he tells me everything about what goes on in his life.. shares his joys and fears.. and openly tells me his thoughts about us.. one positive aspect I know for sure is non-existant in normal togetherness.. he trusts me implicitly and I with him.. doesnt get all hung up if I have other male/female friends.. and we get along famously.. so I think to myself.. why rock the boat.. why change things??

Perhaps some of you have been in a friends with benefits type relationship? What do you define as friends with benefits? Would love to hear your thoughts.. both positive or negative..

Join me in my DATING GAME FORUM for discussions like this and more! Read what members think.

Wednesday, March 11, 2009

prop 8 the musical

thx so much to @LilitheMagdalen for sharing this with me... on the subject of jack Black in pantyhose LOL

but seriously peep like harvey milk fought the briggs proposal of the late 70's prop 6 we too should take a tough no tolerance stance with prop 8 and spread love not hatred like the vid urges..

Sunday, March 8, 2009

2009 Sydney Gay & Lesbian Mardi Gras

frak me.. what a celebration.. one of the best this year has seen.. Mr C and I were in a cant bloody wait for it frame of mind for weeks leading up to it and what fun we had.. arriving just as the last of the floats was trailing slowly down Elizabeth St alongside Hyde Park.. we were of course trying to chase it down before it hit Oxford St but were overcome by the crowds.. an estimated 500,000 of em!! stomping over beer bottles and broken glass..

we ended up staying in the park where along with thousand other revellers decided to partay on there.. the music was sooo loud.. the atmosphere so happy and there was soooo many lively characters that were so hard not to deliciously ogle over.. devils.. nurses.. sexy school girls/boys.. slaves.. mistresses.. coppers.. fantasy boys/girls.. at every turn there was a feast for the senses..

Mr C was dressed in tight black addidas bike shorts.. open black industrie shirt.. Docs and YES!! my sexy man did come in eyeliner and lippy !! YAY!! pleased my boy lived up to his promise.. I was complimenatry in off the shoulder black fitted cotton silky and flowing black almost knee length goth skirt with heavy eyeliner and fake lashes and glossy pout.. I wore my black slides and applied heaps of body shine..

we took a slow walk down to a packed out Oxford and ended up squeezing in the Xchange.. booty scootin and watching all the beautiful people.. then later at the Courthouse where we stayed until the wee wee hours .. lots of rowdiness.. spillage on to the street.. passed out people.. but all in all a fantastic time had by all.. below are some of the pictures from Hyde Park.. and a fantasic video I managed to snag from You Tube .. enjoy!!

This was the first pic I took when we arrived.. the tail end of the actual parade.. the view across to Hyde Park from Bathurst St Elizabeth St along with dozens more were closed to traffic.. traffic from Bathurst St diverted north along Elizabeth

These are pictures from the scene at Hyde park where we stayed for most of the night before we ventured in Oxford St

And finally makin it home.. reflecting on the night

Thursday, March 5, 2009

tray and me

Awwww shucks my good buddy Tray went and made a beautiful video of us depicting our wonderful friendship. I met Tray in 2006 when just starting off online at the (then) popular social networking site BOLT. She watched a few of my vids and we just sorta clicked.. and have been unseperatable ever since. We have had our tantrums and good times.. and sometimes we even lose touch for a bit but we always find one another again.. its like magic. We share everything.. joy sadness laughs tears.. fears .. just so much.. love u Tray :)

Sunday, March 1, 2009

Tray thinks I like to use my tongue alot !

My friend Tray thinks I like using my tongue alot!! haha..perhaps shes right.. watch this funny vid she put together and judge for yourself :)

this guy is trying to work things out LOL

OMG I couldnt stop PML with this.. his wife catches him out getting his skanky ass spanked by a ?? my bet is shes a tranny... and he says "his just trying to work things out".. LOL watch it and judge the situation yourself.. BUSTED!!!

Saturday, February 28, 2009

is my long distance partner worth it?

You do not know me, and you may think it a very personal question, coming from a complete stranger. But sometimes, a complete stranger can get the most honest and direct answers, exactly because he’s a stranger.

So I’m going to repeat the question, but slightly differently: Why would you go through all the pain, frustration and suffering of a long distance relationship if you don’t really see a future together for you and your partner?

Define worth it?

Now this is where it gets difficult. What is worth it for one person isn’t worth it for another. For that matter, what is it? It, in this case, refers to a long distance relationship and everything that goes with it. A long distance relationship isn’t just between you and your partner; it involves your friends, family, co-workers and everybody that you have regular contact with. Most of them will unfortunately think you’re wasting your time. This is coming both from personal experience, and from reading my fair share of forum entries where people are discouraged from being in a long distance relationship.

A long distance relationship is a way of life. We don’t like it, but for those of us that are in it, it obviously has to be worth it to go through all the trouble.

What are your long term goals?

Not just for yourself. What are your long term goals for your relationship? Where do you see this relationship going within the next few years? If it will help, consider it as if you were together permanently, and the distance wasn’t there at all. Do you see yourself getting married to this person eventually? Or should you choose not to believe in marriage, do you see this person as your life partner, with whom you want to settle down and raise a family?

If you’ve answered yes to that question, then you have your answer. This person is your life partner, and you would be silly to let this relationship die. What if I’m uncertain or answered no?

Should we break up?

What if your answer was a clear and definite NO? I’ll discuss that in a moment. But what if your answer was that you’re uncertain, or maybe your answer was an unconvincing no. Well then, the next question would be: Why? Why are you not convinced of your relationship with this person? Maybe you have trust issues? Maybe you feel uncertain about yourself? Maybe you don’t have problems like that, but you’re just worried about your relationship as a whole.

I’m going to sound like a broken record here, but always ask yourself why. If you’re ever in doubt, ask yourself why you are in doubt. Even for a definite no, you should still ask yourself why. Maybe you are right to have trust issues. Maybe your partner has broken your trust. Or maybe, when you carefully think about it, and maybe even discuss it with your partner, you find that your doubts are unfounded

Never underestimate the power of suggestion. Every day, we are bombarded by images and stories of unfaithful people in movies, on TV and in magazines. Deep down, we may know it’s not really like that, but unfortunately, our logical thoughts are just overwhelmed.

Go and post a question about long distance relationships on any open forum. Maybe half the people will tell you it can never work. Well they’ve been proven wrong so many times over it’s not even worth going into that argument. Still, when you hear that negative message, there’s some part of you that for some or other reason, throws logical reasoning out of the window and takes someone else’s distorted opinion as fact.

So what should you actually do when you’re uncertain, or if you answered no? I’d say the fact that you are in a relationship with this person, only goes to show that there must be something about him or her that attracted you in the first place. And the fact that you’re in a long distance relationship, probably one of the most difficult things a relationship can be in, shows me even more that you have something that you feel is worth preserving.

First take a critical look at your own situation, and then you can get to the question you’ve wanted to ask all along: Should we break up?

Don’t break up – yet

I’m not going to tell you whether or not you should break up, because honestly, only you can answer that question for yourself. But what if the answer was no? Then we should break up, shouldn’t we?

No, you should first work on your relationship. I’ve already shown you that there must be something there; otherwise you wouldn’t be going through all the trouble in the first place. If necessary, call an emergency get-together with your partner and really have a heart-to-heart discussion about your relationship.

Nothing good in life ever came for free, and that includes relationships. You have to work on your relationship in order for it to be worthwhile. After you’ve worked on your relationship, and done everything that you can, you can take another critical look at where you are going with it.

What I want you to do is this: Call up your partner and discuss your future together. Don’t spring the question out of nowhere. Rather lead up to it over a few days. Only once you’ve really worked on your relationship, can you be trusted to make a smart decision.

About the authors:

Leon and Mari Louw are the authors of Long Distance Relationship Secrets. It is the most effective hands-on practical book available on the internet – or anywhere else for that matter – dealing with the day to day struggles of a long distance relationship.

If you are involved in a painful long distance relationship, then dont miss this super guide to Saving Your Long Distance Relationship - Long Distance Relationship Secrets

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