Saturday, February 28, 2009

is my long distance partner worth it?

You do not know me, and you may think it a very personal question, coming from a complete stranger. But sometimes, a complete stranger can get the most honest and direct answers, exactly because he’s a stranger.

So I’m going to repeat the question, but slightly differently: Why would you go through all the pain, frustration and suffering of a long distance relationship if you don’t really see a future together for you and your partner?

Define worth it?

Now this is where it gets difficult. What is worth it for one person isn’t worth it for another. For that matter, what is it? It, in this case, refers to a long distance relationship and everything that goes with it. A long distance relationship isn’t just between you and your partner; it involves your friends, family, co-workers and everybody that you have regular contact with. Most of them will unfortunately think you’re wasting your time. This is coming both from personal experience, and from reading my fair share of forum entries where people are discouraged from being in a long distance relationship.

A long distance relationship is a way of life. We don’t like it, but for those of us that are in it, it obviously has to be worth it to go through all the trouble.

What are your long term goals?

Not just for yourself. What are your long term goals for your relationship? Where do you see this relationship going within the next few years? If it will help, consider it as if you were together permanently, and the distance wasn’t there at all. Do you see yourself getting married to this person eventually? Or should you choose not to believe in marriage, do you see this person as your life partner, with whom you want to settle down and raise a family?

If you’ve answered yes to that question, then you have your answer. This person is your life partner, and you would be silly to let this relationship die. What if I’m uncertain or answered no?

Should we break up?

What if your answer was a clear and definite NO? I’ll discuss that in a moment. But what if your answer was that you’re uncertain, or maybe your answer was an unconvincing no. Well then, the next question would be: Why? Why are you not convinced of your relationship with this person? Maybe you have trust issues? Maybe you feel uncertain about yourself? Maybe you don’t have problems like that, but you’re just worried about your relationship as a whole.

I’m going to sound like a broken record here, but always ask yourself why. If you’re ever in doubt, ask yourself why you are in doubt. Even for a definite no, you should still ask yourself why. Maybe you are right to have trust issues. Maybe your partner has broken your trust. Or maybe, when you carefully think about it, and maybe even discuss it with your partner, you find that your doubts are unfounded

Never underestimate the power of suggestion. Every day, we are bombarded by images and stories of unfaithful people in movies, on TV and in magazines. Deep down, we may know it’s not really like that, but unfortunately, our logical thoughts are just overwhelmed.

Go and post a question about long distance relationships on any open forum. Maybe half the people will tell you it can never work. Well they’ve been proven wrong so many times over it’s not even worth going into that argument. Still, when you hear that negative message, there’s some part of you that for some or other reason, throws logical reasoning out of the window and takes someone else’s distorted opinion as fact.

So what should you actually do when you’re uncertain, or if you answered no? I’d say the fact that you are in a relationship with this person, only goes to show that there must be something about him or her that attracted you in the first place. And the fact that you’re in a long distance relationship, probably one of the most difficult things a relationship can be in, shows me even more that you have something that you feel is worth preserving.

First take a critical look at your own situation, and then you can get to the question you’ve wanted to ask all along: Should we break up?

Don’t break up – yet

I’m not going to tell you whether or not you should break up, because honestly, only you can answer that question for yourself. But what if the answer was no? Then we should break up, shouldn’t we?

No, you should first work on your relationship. I’ve already shown you that there must be something there; otherwise you wouldn’t be going through all the trouble in the first place. If necessary, call an emergency get-together with your partner and really have a heart-to-heart discussion about your relationship.

Nothing good in life ever came for free, and that includes relationships. You have to work on your relationship in order for it to be worthwhile. After you’ve worked on your relationship, and done everything that you can, you can take another critical look at where you are going with it.

What I want you to do is this: Call up your partner and discuss your future together. Don’t spring the question out of nowhere. Rather lead up to it over a few days. Only once you’ve really worked on your relationship, can you be trusted to make a smart decision.

About the authors:

Leon and Mari Louw are the authors of Long Distance Relationship Secrets. It is the most effective hands-on practical book available on the internet – or anywhere else for that matter – dealing with the day to day struggles of a long distance relationship.

If you are involved in a painful long distance relationship, then dont miss this super guide to Saving Your Long Distance Relationship - Long Distance Relationship Secrets



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Thursday, February 26, 2009

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Monday, February 23, 2009

and the oscar goes to..

OMG .. and the oscar goes to... Sean Penn.. for best actor for his brillant portrail of assassinated openly gay San Franscico politician Harvey Milk.. "you commie homo-lovin sons of guns.. ah i did not expect this and I want it to be very clear.. that I do know how hard I make it to appreciate me often.."



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Sunday, February 22, 2009

have you found love at twitter?

with todays fast-paced plugged-in world...the social network is fast becoming more and more the places to meet potenial date or relationship partners.. places like MySpace .. Facebook.. Friendster and now Twitter have have taken over as virtual chatrooms where people flock to to socialise and meet.

Theres even 2 well known twitter meeting points for single tweeters looking for love.. Robert Balousek, contributor on the Swagalicio.us blog, has already launched a service called Twintro where you can follow and get updates from interesting tweeters. There is also Tweetheart.. (which im a member) whom you follow and a profile is created under whichever category you prefer.. you are out there where you have the opportunity to potentially meet hundreds of likeminded twitter singles.. gay.. bi .. swingers .. TV/S or straight

Is everyone catching on? theres even a service in the making for a social dating network called Twitterpated. Which instead of asking "what are you doing?" will exclaim "who are you looking for?" .. seems so ..

So here I was sitting here tonight contemplating just how many twitterers have found or are seeking love or even using it as a tool to flirt.. perhaps flirting via DM's .. then progressing to IM's, camming or even actual real world meetings for something more than just friends.. some might even have a twitter disaster or funny story.. I would love to hear of your experiences.. you can remain anon or change names.. thats fine.. so long as we can share .. please post your stories below..

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6 ways to mend your long distance relationship

“My relationship was going well and then it plummeted. It was a long distance relationship but it was going so well and strong for 7 months and then crashed. I would give anything to get her back and I really need some advice.”

This is just one example of countless questions I receive asking advice for basically the same problem. So how do you fix a relationship that has gone bad?

Go for the 6-point checklist

1. Go visit If you really would do anything, I suggest you start by going to see your partner and try and work things out. Long distance relationships are hard, but don't let anybody ever tell you they can't work out. I was in a long distance relationship for more than three years. It sucks big time, but it's definitely still worth it.

If there really are problems in your relationship, it’s best to discuss it in person. Phone calls, Skype, webcams, etc. are all great resources that you can use to communicate, but real problems need real people to sort them out. Not people on computer screens or voices on the other side of telephones. This is not to say you can’t work it out over the distance, so don’t just give up yet. It’s just easier in person.

2. Do some digging Find out exactly what led to the (possible) breakup. Dig deep. If it's something one of you said, dig deeper still and find out what led to that being said. I would assume that you are not an inherently bad person, so if you said something bad, there must have been a reason for you to say it.

Don’t stop digging once you’ve reached what looks like an answer. Maybe there’s an even deeper level, something that happened a long time ago. And quite possibly, that something was a complete misunderstanding. It’s happened to us a lot, and I don’t think we’re unique in that way.

3. Be brutally honest You have to be brutally honest, both with yourself, and with your partner. Your digging will lead to some things you wouldn’t want to know, both about yourself and your partner. You should be prepared for it. This is not the time for mud slinging. This is the time to be a couple. Couples stand together through everything and help each other. You need to admit to the things you find.

4. Admit your mistakes Admit those mistakes that you’ve uncovered. Admitting mistakes isn’t saying: “I was brought up this way, I can’t change…” Admitting your mistakes means finding out what you’ve been doing wrong so far and actively doing something about it. This is where your partnership will be instrumental. You have work together with each other to come out better as a team on the other side. But don’t stop at your partner. You should also use the help of friends and family. They may be even more brutally honest with you than your partner.

5. What are your plans? Does your partner know that you have long term plans for your relationship? You do have long term plans don’t you? Like maybe getting married eventually? If you're serious about making this relationship work, I would assume it's because you feel that there is a possibility of a long term relationship. Maybe if your partner knows that's the way you really feel you will get renewed energy and a renewed sense of direction in your relationship.

Seriously, I’ll never tell you when to break a relationship. Only you can ever tell yourself that. But if you don’t see a long term goal for your relationship, a long distance relationship is not your best option. Long distance relationships are harder work than normal relationships, so you have to have something to work for. In our case, as with many others, it was and is definitely worth it, no matter the distance, and no matter how long we are apart.

6. Make some sacrifices You will have to make some sacrifices in your relationship, but weigh it up against the rewards, and eventually it’s no sacrifice at all. As an example, I spent a lot of money during the course of our long distance relationship in order to visit Mari often enough. But I never saw our relationship in terms of a monetary value. What I got in return is something that no amount of money can ever buy.

Maybe your sacrifice is something else. Maybe you just need to spend less time doing something else you want to do, and spend more time on the phone with your partner. Or maybe you should take the plunge and look for a job closer to your partner. Even if it may mean that you will have to work for a lower salary.

Never just give up on your relationship without a fight (for the relationship that is, not a fight in the relationship). Every relationship goes through a bit of a rough patch from time to time. Long distance relationships are no different.

About the author:

Leon and Mari Louw are the authors of Long Distance Relationship Secrets. It is the most effective hands-on practical book available on the internet – or anywhere else for that matter – dealing with the day to day struggles of a long distance relationship.

If you are involved in a painful long distance relationship, then dont miss this super guide to Saving Your Long Distance Relationship - Long Distance Relationship Secrets

why men leave

There are many reasons that men leave relationships, or don’t get into them fully in the first place. Some men are haunted by the ghosts of past loves. They cannot shake them from their minds or get them out of their hearts. Although they date new women, the specter of a past love prevents them from giving their hearts, committing to another, or truly opening up. Each new person is compared, consciously or unconsciously, to the previous love. This past relationship can take on an idealized quality so that no one in the present or future will ever measure up.

For some men, this past love is a young, first love. In all later relationships they seek the magic they felt then. For others it is a past wife or fiancé who haunts them. Being deeply hurt by the breakup or death, they search for someone to replace her, rather than try to find someone new.

For others the past relationship that haunts them may go back to their mothers whom they feel gave them unconditional love. Deep within there is a hunger and demand for this unconditional love and acceptance again. Now at this juncture, they secretly feel that no woman can live up to mom. Unconsciously they compare every woman to her.

Sadly enough, for some men the ghosts that haunt them are not positive. Some have had painful experiences and are seeking a woman who is the opposite of theone they knew, or seeking someone to even the score. In these situations, painful memories get in the way of being available to the new person, or to being truly present at all.

There are other men who find it safer to cling to memories of the past than to risk failure with someone here now. These men may choose to live off a memory for years. It is not unusual for these men to unconsciously attract an unsuitable partner so that the relationship will not threaten the fantasy woman in his dreams. Deep down he knows he’ll never be able to stay with this unsuitable partner. She’s no ultimate threat.

Men also turn to these ghosts of the past when their present relationship may not be going well. Instead of dealing with the difficulty or disappointment, they lapse into memory, comparing this partner to the one they had. Always unfavorably. Or when he feels pressured to commit before he is ready, the specter of old loves come back to haunt him. It’s a perfect excuse and also a way out of a tight spot.

On a more positive note, at times a man cannot let go of a past relationship because it is simply incomplete. Something needs to be said or done, to be given or received. There is a gnawing feeling inside that the relationship is not yet fulfilled. Perhaps forgiveness is needed. Perhaps a real good bye. It is always best to become aware of what it is that is causing a ghost to lodge in one’s heart and mind. If something can be done to complete the relationship, do it now. If one is simply caught holding onto the past, recognize that and see why it is so frightening to allow oneself to live again and make a new try.

Whatever the factor that causes a man to cling to memories of the past, a common theme appears through all of them, this is a way to safeguard oneself against hurt and failure in the present. The best way to get past it, is to understand that dreams can never bring the fulfillment and growth that a real, flesh and blood love can. It’s worth the risk to try again. Or else we become a ghost as well.

About the author:

As seen on TV, Dr. Brenda Shoshanna is one of the leading authorities on how to makes relationships stronger, and what makes them fail. Sought out by major publishing houses, her books have been published domestically and internationally in over 14 languages.

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is somebody cheating on you?

is somebody cheating on you??

You’ve seen what you think might be lipstick stains on his collar. You’ve smelled somebody else’s perfume or cologne. Your partner is having whispered cell phone calls at all hours of the night.

What the heck is going on? You might have a cheater. But the key word is MIGHT.

If you go after the person with guns blazing, but it turns out there’s nothing going on, you could crater your relationship in a heartbeat. Confidence is what counts. If you want to stop a cheater, you need the hard evidence that gets it done.

But how do you get it?

You have three options:

1) You can hire a private investigator (P.I.) to follow your partner around and get the incriminating photographs.

2) You can try to find out on your know, without really knowing what to do or how to do it...and get caught and embarrassed.

3) Or you can smart, learn how to be a super-sleuth and catch your cheater red-handed.

That last one is the smart choice, but how can you do it without spending years in training, and probably spending a ton of money? It’s easier than you think, especially when you can get your hands on Affair Detective.

If you already suspect somebody’s cheating on you, and you know you want help, go check this out RIGHT NOW:

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P.I.s get paid good money, because they’re good at what they do. Let me boil it down for you, though. What they’re good at is snooping and gathering evidence without getting caught. They know how to find evidence of what somebody’s doing, and know without a doubt whether or not they’re doing it. That could be a stalker, an embezzler, or a cheater.

The good news is that Affair Detector teaches you how to do the same thing. This is powerful stuff. Here’s a taste:

* You’ll learn how to detect the clues every cheater leaves behind...they can’t help themselves

* You’ll learn how to become a covert surveillance expert, doing everything from snooping on cell phone records to finding out where your partner’s been surfing online

* The super-sleuth manual shows you how to get inside the head of your cheater and catch them tipping their hand so you can know for sure if something’s up

* You’ll even know the tell-tale signs of cheating that most people completely overlook

If somebody’s cheating on you, it’s serious business. It’s not fun and games. To be blunt about it, you’re being abused psychologically and emotionally. It needs to stop, for your own health. And if you’ve got kids in the house, you definitely need to protect them. Affair Detector gives you the easy, simple techniques to use to expose your cheater and to stop the behavior which is stealing your happiness by ruining the relationship you thought you had.

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3 Facebook/MySpace Profile MISTAKES That Scare Women Away!

By Derek Lamont

Let me tell you a girl’s biggest fear when talking to guys online...

They fear… the “CREEP”. You know the guys I’m talking about. The one’s that are just weird looking. They look like they don’t have any friends. They look like they haven’t been laid in forever. The ones that just look like complete and total STALKERS. And you wonder why online dating for them is so difficult? Some guys just put things in their profiles that make them look like future rapists. Gross!

So here are six things that they’re doing wrong… Here’s profile blunder #1.

1.) They have only a few or NO pictures at all. Imagine being a good looking girl and you receive a message from some dude that has NO picture. Are you kidding? What is that guy thinking? And sorry… one or two pictures doesn’t cut it either. You really need to have a plethora of pictures that convey high value… if you don’t, you’re out of the picture entirely.

2.) If you use Facebook or MySpace… don’t put yourself as “single”. This may be counter-intuitive, but by putting yourself as single, you make the remark that you “are trying”. See what I mean? Plus it eliminates the mystery. You want to make the girl wonder… “Is he single or not?”

3.) Last but not least… PUNCTUATION AND GRAMMAR! You think that really hot chick is going to want to reply to you if your profile is riddled with spelling errors? I’m not saying that your profile content has to be at the level of Shakespeare’s, but check your writing! Use a spell checker if you have to. SHOW that you are intelligent.

So there you go, guys! Avoid these blunders at all costs.

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Thursday, February 19, 2009

how to be a cyber lover

OMFG this is sooo funny.. think nerds.. cybering.. are you depressed? a 40 something year old living with your mother? No problems..Herb Zipper shares his cyber sex tips

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Wednesday, February 18, 2009

7 tips for passionate lovemaking

7 Tips For More Pleasurable and Passionate Lovemaking

Need some ideas to make your lovemaking phenomenal? These 7 tips should give you plenty of ideas to make your midnight sessions more hot, steamy and passionate, starting today…

1. Become more sensual

While most men want to ‘get the job done’ and reach the goal of orgasm, for women it’s more about the journey. Women love to reach climax as much as men do, but they also love a sensual stroke from your hand across their leg. Believe it or not, the ears, neck, arms and hair are all really sensitive areas that love to be stimulated. Spend some time during foreplay caressing and touching these areas, and watch how it pleases your partner and can even intensify their
orgasm.

2. Try positions proven to increase pleasure

For women: The reverse missionary is identical to the traditional missionary except that she is on top. This is probably the easiest position for a woman to climax because she can control the friction to her clitoris and/or G-spot.

For men: Practically every animal species utilizes the rear-entry “doggy-style” position, so it is a natural one for humans to enjoy, as well. Although you won’t have face-to-face contact, there are many benefits. It is great for guys because they have full control over movement and pleasure.

3. Play bedroom games

Tasteful, fun and alluring sex games are one of the best ways to intensify orgasms and the entire lovemaking experience. They’re fun, sexy and have a lot of replay value. Maybe you’ll use a deck of cards or dice to create your own passionate play. Perhaps you’ll adapt a sport game for the bedroom. Or maybe you’ll just want to use your bodies as the props. It doesn’t matter. Simply get excited and unleash some creativity! And even while some games only consist of familiar tips and moves, you'll be using them in new scenarios, which actually makes them feel new.

4. Set a romantic mood

People often think that using candles, music, incense and even rose petals to set the mood of their lovemaking is too “cliché.” Are they kidding! Your partner will LOVE YOU for this. Just imagine how happy you would feel if someone went to all the trouble to create a special lovemaking occasion that you can cherish for years to come. Could this be so “cliché” because people enjoy it so much? Point made.

5. Give them a sexy massage

Why stop at setting the mood? Go one step further and give your partner a sensual massage that makes them feel relaxed and loved at the same time. Make it sexy, sensual, and pleasurable. Massage them naked or build up the anticipation by having them slowly undress during the massage. Then kiss, caress and slowly transition “under the sheets” where a massage of another kind can take place. And no, you don’t need years of study to give a great massage. Just grab some candles and music, and bless your partner with an experience they’ll never forget.

6. Please your partner with more oral sex

Did you know that oral sex is a great way to strengthen your relationship? Think about it. It takes a lot of trust and comfort to let somebody have their mouth down there. Not to mention it’s great for men who want to relax without pressure to perform, and for women who can’t reach orgasm from only intercourse. In short, it’s an important part of foreplay.

Here are some tips for both men and women.

Ladies: Women often start fellatio by sucking on the penis straightaway when, actually, they should start with some playful teasing and soft touches. This will lead to a much more powerful orgasm as it heightens his anticipation.

Gentlemen: A mistake men often make is moving their tongue in a thrusting fashion, when stimulating the vagina and clitoris orally. Instead, they should lick it like an ice cream cone. Another great tip to keep things exciting is to write the alphabet around the clitoris with your tongue.

7. Use household items

It makes sense that to spice things up you need to do something different. The more unique the experience, the more it fires up your lovemaking. Well, just recently I've found one of the very BEST ways to keep things passionate and exciting. It’s by using household items. Huh? That's right! There are literally 100's of household items you can play with in your house. Everything from a rolling pin for a massage, ice for a cool sensation, cards for a naughty game or sheepskin that feels soft under your skin.

By dedicating time to finding new items, you can turn ordinary lovemaking into extraordinary lovemaking for longer, and keep it that way. And while positions and techniques get old quickly, these items add a NEW LEVEL to your lovemaking that normal lovemaking just can't do. This is the sure-fire way to make sure your lovemaking stays passionate, pleasurable, and intimate for years to come.

In fact, unlike all the other suggestions, using household items for foreplay and intercourse proves to be the most unique and powerful way to spice up lovemaking.

About the Author:

Oprah Love Expert Michael Webb is the author of "Sex All Around The House-Using Everyday Household Items To Spice Up Your Sex Life" helping you get in the mood, prolong the passion and create totally new sensations. Handpicked from over 1500 tips.

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top 10 tips to give a woman an orgasm

Top 10 Tips To Give Women An Orgasm

Did you know that women can experience different types of orgasms and can even have multiple orgasms? It’s true! Unfortunately, many women can go years without an orgasm from their partner, and we all know how hard it is to satisfya woman.

Here are 10 tips to increase the chances she'll reach climax, including the secret to multiple orgasms:

Start outside the bedroom - Want to increase the chances she'll orgasm? When was the last time you surprised her with a little drawing, letter or flowers and sent them to her at work? Believe it or not, creative and romantic gestures DO turn women on because love and lovemaking are interconnected in a woman’s brain. Do this and you can bet-your-bottom-dollar you'll be doing more than just eating dinner when she walks in the door! :)

Relax her - It’s very hard for women to orgasm if they are stressed. Give her a quick back massage. Rub her shoulders, upper back and neck to melt away the tension.

Ignore the vagina - Did you know that prolonged foreplay actually increases the chances of her coming? That's right. By kissing, caressing and touching her LONGER, you’ll build the sexual tension and often the anticipation will be very powerful.

Change your focus - If you focus all your attention on the woman first, you'll make love to her much more passionately. Think about it! If you've finished first and decide to help her come, you won't have the enthusiasm and passion that's needed to keep her hot and turned on.

Tip to last longer - Of course the first step to help her reach orgasm is by not coming. The best way I've found to not come is: Penetrate as normal and when you feel like you're about to come, simply move your hips in a circular motion (like swaying a hula hoop) and wait until the “little guys” subside again. Now continue pleasuring. :D

Don't use lubricants - Women have a natural lubricant that fills the vagina when they're turned on. By using a product substitute, you're only fooling yourself. Without products, you’ll instantly know if things are working; but with them, you can never be sure.

Never too much clitoris - Did you know that once you've stimulated the clitoris for some time, a little thing called the clitoral hood will actually come out and cover the clitoris to protect it from further direct stimulation? (And no, I'm not making this up!) The point is, once the clitoris is fully stimulated, make sure you pleasure the G-spot next, whether it be with your hand, tongue or penis.

Find and stimulate the G spot - The G-spot is a zone that feels like the roof of your mouth and is located about 2 inches inside the vagina on the topside. (On the underside of her stomach.) There are two basic ways you can pleasure the G. With your fingers by doing a “come here” motion or with a love position that helps hit the G-spot…

Use the best position - Not all love positions are made equal. The best one for women is the reverse missionary (woman on top). This is probably the easiest position for a woman to climax because she can control the friction to her clitoris and/or G-spot.

Give her oral sex - The single best way to help a woman reach orgasm, even multiple orgasms, is by going down on her (cunnilingus). While at first I didn’t believe it, countless studies have been done to prove this fact. Oral sex is easier and much more satisfying for women than intercourse is. Try the ABC’s with your tongue, ask what she likes, and mix it up with lots of different movements! However be VERY careful! With over 6,000 nerve endings in the clitoris, make sure you know everything there is to know before poking your tongue around there, otherwise it could be really painful and, even worse, spoil the mood.

So there you have it – 10 tips you can start using right away to give women the most earth-shattering experience of their lives.

About the author:

Oprah Love Expert Michael Webb is the author of Lick by Lick, the complete guide to giving women oral pleasure. Unfortunately, most men leave women frustrated and disappointed after cunnilingus. Learn to be one of the rare men who can satisfy her with oral sex by visiting:

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5 tips to please your man

5 Tips To Please Your Man In Bed

Want to give your man a thrilling experience like never before? Here are 5 really simple ways to make your lovemaking hotter, steamier and more passionate, starting tonight!

1. The best position for his enjoyment

Practically every animal species utilizes the rear-entry “doggy-style”position, so it is a natural one for humans to enjoy, as well. While you won’t have face-to-face contact, there are many benefits. It’s great for guys because it gives them full control. This is one of the best positions for hitting her G-spot and allows him to fondle your breasts, stomach, clitoris, back, neckand other sensual spots. The main benefit for your man is that he’ll be able to get incredibly deep penetration (above-average guys need to be careful as deep thrusts might hit her cervix, which can be quite painful).

2. Find your man’s “hidden” zones

Yes, men love to be touched sensually too. I call these “hidden”zones because many people don’t realize, or forget, that these areas of the body LOVE attention. While many of these zones are obvious, like the lips,groin, and inner thighs, there are also areas that, when stroked, caressed and kissed, can drive your partner wild and even intensify their orgasm. Believe it or not, the ears, neck, arms, chest and scalp are all really sensitive areas that love to be stimulated. Spend some time during foreplay caressing and touching these areas, and watch how it pleases your partner.

3. Set a romantic mood

Think men aren’t romantic or wouldn’t appreciate it? Think again! Everyone loves a thoughtful and kind gesture. Of course you might think that using candles, music, incense and even rose petals to set the mood of your lovemaking is a little too “cliché.” But he’ll think differently!Your partner will LOVE YOU for this. Just imagine how happy you would feel if someone went to all the trouble to create a special lovemaking occasion that you can cherish for years to come. Could this be so “cliché”because people enjoy it so much? Point made.

4. Give him a hand job

When beginning a genital massage, start with lighter, irregular strokes –like teasing. As you get further and further into it, stick with two or three main strokes that your partner really enjoys. Developing a good rhythm that your partner can get into is the key to bringing your partner to orgasm with a genital massage.

5. Please your man with more oral sex

If I had to give you one piece of advice to make your lovemaking perfect, it would be: learn the art of fellatio. It’s true, all men love it. It feels great and actually takes a lot of trust and comfort to let somebody have their mouth down there. In short, it’s an important part of lovemaking and is often the main event. Problem is, women often start fellatio by sucking on the penis straightaway when, actually, they should start with some playful teasing and soft touches. This will lead to a much more powerful orgasm as it heightens his anticipation. Make sure you use different techniques and your tongue, as well.

So there you have it. Five great ways to make your man more satisfied in the bedroom. While they’re all great, I would recommend putting most of your energy and time into learning fellatio, simply because men crave it so much and the loving smile and kisses you’ll probably get in return are definitely worth it.

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I’m going to clue you in on a dirty little secret that the doctors and pharmaceutical companies DON’T want you to know…

Here it is:

In most cases (with the exception of female circumcision, where the clitoris has been completely removed) you can safely assume that the “dysfunction” results from the fact that the man can’t bring his partner to orgasm. This is supported by the fact that the same women who aren’t able to have orgasms with them in the bedroom are still able to have orgasms all by themselves in the bedroom…

And guess what happens when we start calling it a “dysfunction”? Doctors can start writing prescriptions, and, before long, the whole medical community is cashing in on our problems! They’d much rather have you and your wife or girlfriend become dependent on questionable
medications instead of taking the time or effort to educate you on what YOU should be doing to make her have an orgasm.

Why?

It’s all about the money!

Think about it…if they can get the two of you hooked on their drugs, you’ll be back to fill that prescription month after month after month… And they’ll be getting your hard earned money!

Check this out:

In 1999, a study was published in the Journal of the American Medical Association which found that “sexual dysfunction” affects 43% of women. Since then, pharmaceutical companies have been trying to pump out a “Viagra for women”, and doctors have started diagnosing women with sexual dysfunction and giving them “sex drugs”.

But…because the federal Food and Drug Administration has yet to approve any sex drugs for women, all of these remedies are prescribed "off-label”. In other words, these drugs are administered in a way that is different from their intended use. And, as everyone knows, that can be incredibly dangerous!

The Sneaky Way They Get You…And What You Can Do About It!

Like I said, one sneaky way the sex scientists and the big drug companies get regular men like you and me is by selling (and endorsing) female orgasm DRUGS.

I mean think about it.

When was the last time you actually heard about a man who was known to be a “sex god” in bed use any of these (potentially dangerous) drugs? The truth is…any man can bring a woman to an orgasm even if he had only one finger!

And do you know why?

BECAUSE IT’S NOT ABOUT SOME “FEMALE VIAGRA!”

Nope.

The REAL way to give a woman an orgasm isn’t about drugs. It’s about knowing these three
things:

1. Where to touch a woman

2. When to touch a woman

3. THE SECRET TWITCH.

Wait!

You might be wondering…

WHAT IN THE WORLD IS THE SECRET TWITCH??

It’s potentially the one thing standing between you and the multiple orgasms you’ll give to your woman (and she’ll brag about you to her friends for years to come). And it’s one of the “secret fingering techniques” of some of the best lovers on the planet. The same fingering technique that makes other women throw themselves at these men, begging them for more sex that the men can possibly handle.

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the magical muscle that can revolutionize your sexual performance. Do you know what’s it’s called?

Today I’d like to tell you about one muscle in the male body that, unlike biceps and triceps, most guys have never heard of. And the fact that most men don’t know about it of course means they don’t know that training it can give them much more control over when they climax during sex. And, given that 75% of guys suffer from premature ejaculation, this little secret is definitely worth knowing.

When you come, a certain muscle involuntarily contracts—it does this each and every time you have an orgasm. It is the PC muscle. PC stands for Pubococcygeus, so you can see why we’ve shortened it. We won’t go into what its physiological function is or exactly where in your body it resides (except to say that if feels like it’s in your, well, ass)—because what’s the point? All you need and probably want to know is how the PC muscle can help you gain a greater degree of control over your sexual stimulation and therefore when you come during sex. Here’s how to locate it. When you take a pee, you tense your PC muscle to stop the flow. Or, when you’re absolutely busting, you tense your PC muscle to stop the flow from…flowing. If you still aren’t sure what or where it is, next time you come pay attention to which muscle down there twitches every second or so until you finish ejaculating.

Okay, so you know which muscle it is. Now you need to get used to isolating it. Try tensing it right now, but don’t tense any other muscle down there. Don’t tense your legs and don’t tense your buttocks. Tense your PC muscle, hold it for 2 seconds, then relax. You’ve just performed one Kegel. A Kegel is a way of exercising your PC muscle by doing what you just did—tensing, holding and releasing. Doing Kegels regularly strengthens your PC muscle, which gives you an increased degree of control over your orgasm. You become much better at keeping your stimulation level steady during sex, instead of it going up and down as it wishes, out of your control. Here’s a good beginner’s routine which you can use three times a week to tone up your PC muscle and thereby increase your sexual stamina and control.

Start by doing 20 Kegels. Each repetition should go like this: tense as hard as you can, hold it for 2 seconds, then relax. Wait a couple of seconds, then repeat. Your PC muscle will probably feel quite tired after doing 20 reps, so give it a break for a few minutes. Then, do 5 reps that go like this: tense using a medium amount of strength, hold it for 5 seconds, then relax. After a few weeks, you’ll notice the difference in bed. Your erections will feel harder and more ‘powerful’ and your ability to control your sexual sensations will have improved. You can either continue to use the PC muscle routine above, or develop your own, more advanced routine, by adding reps and tensing for longer during each rep.

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how to tell if your partner is faking her orgasms and what to do if she is

How to tell if your partner is faking her orgasms! And what to do if she is…

It’s every sexually active man’s fear, that his partner or partners have or are faking their orgasms. So is there a way to tell if a girl’s only acting like she’s in pleasure heaven? And what can a guy do to turn her amateur dramatics into fully blown, sexual satisfaction?

The female orgasm has always been shrouded in mystery for men (and many women!). Unlike a guy’s guaranteed sexual pay-off, a female orgasm is never a certainty; for it to occur at all requires a whole host of special requirements to be met. Things like the male’s sexual technique, the woman’s knowledge of how her body works and responds to different things, and the female’s mood at the time of sex all play a part in either preventing or allowing an orgasm to take place. So let’s tackle the first issue: what signs should you look for to tell if a girl’s putting it on in the sack and not really reaching her ultimate climax?

Sign #1: BLOOD FLOW SIGNALS. When a woman is sexually aroused, the blood flow to specific parts of her body change. These changes are most notable (and useful to us guys!) when a woman climaxes by reaching an orgasm. Here are the Blood Flow Signals you should watch out for:

A. Watch her cheeks as you have sex and take note of how red or blushed they are. When a girl climaxes, the blood flow to her face typically increases, you’ll often notice her cheeks suddenly become more pink and flushed.

B. Another part of the body that receives an increased flow of blood when a woman reaches orgasm is the nipples – again, try to watch out for how they change as you have sex and especially when she appears to be having an orgasm. If she IS truly cumming, her nipples may very well become harder and more “erect”.

C. Her chest is another GREAT place to notice the after-effects of an orgasm. A massive percentage of women, right after they climax, have a red flush on their chests that almost looks like a light rash. If your girl has this, it’s a strong sign she’s just achieved the magic “O.”

D. Lastly, her vagina’s lips (labia). Look for a slight swelling and reddening as another indication that she’s not play-acting her ultimate pleasure.

Sign #2: The above blood flow signals are usually noticed just after a woman’s climaxed. This sign is noticeable only when she’s actually experiencing an orgasm. Try to feel or sense tiny contractions in her vagina – these twitches often happen as a natural result of what a woman is psychically going through and feeling and serve as a really good, accurate indicator of whether or not she’s actually cumming.

Sign #3: When they reach orgasm, most women sort of zone out for a moment and then, over the 15-20 seconds that follow their climax, slowly come “back around.” Look for this zoning out effect by watching her eyes after she supposedly cums. Do they look sort of glazed or glassy, even for just a few seconds? The good thing about this sign is that women rarely ever try to or even know how to fake it, so when you DO notice it, it actually tends to mean something significant (and positive!).

Sign #4. Lastly, consider the way she acts and behaves. When she ‘climaxes’, is it usually from the same kind of stimulation. For example, does she tend to cum most of the time from oral sex or penetrative sex? Is it usually towards the end of your lovemaking or does it seem to happen randomly. If her orgasms ARE wild and inconsistent and brought about seemingly by completely different kinds of stimulus, there may be something…amiss. Also, does she talk about having an orgasm a lot? Say, after you finish sex, does she often confirm – even without you asking – that she had a great time and came lots? A lot of women do this when they think the man hasn’t believed their orgasmic reactions, so consider what she says and the way she says it carefully.

Overall, your goal is never to be a private investigator in bed. You simply want to know if she’s being satisfied or not, right? To help you ascertain whether or not you’re regularly bringing her to orgasm, look for the 4 signs and signals you’ve just read. If you DO think she’s faking it, I recommend first talking to her about it. But then, as the real answer to the problem, you should pick up your game and learn exactly how to physically satisfy her – or, for that matter – any woman. There are dozens of techniques and strategies for doing this, all ready to be learnt and applied to your sex life…so don’t wait any longer to revolutionize your performance and ability in bed.

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how to change your mindset and improve your sexual stamina

One of the main reasons men suffer from premature ejaculation—which simply means reaching orgasm before they ideally want to when they have sex—is because they have a negative mindset. And it’s not surprising when you think about it. Our minds rule our bodies. If we are sad, we cry. If we are happy, we smile and walk confidently. And, yes, if we have the wrong mindset, we guys can climax too early during sex. Here’s how it works.

Let’s take an imaginary guy called James, who reaches orgasm too soon. He knows this and is very, very conscious of the fact that he wishes he could last longer and satisfy himself and his partners more. He’s been sexually active for a few years, it doesn’t really matter how long – the point is, he’s not happy with his performance. Fast forward to a sexual encounter. Even before foreplay has begun – as soon as the opportunity or chance to have sex has arisen – in the back of his mind is the nagging thought, “This time I’d like to last longer than I have in the past, but will I ejaculate too soon?”. Already, either consciously or subconsciously, his performance is tainted with negative emotion. It’s providing extra pressure he really doesn’t need. Before sex he was thinking about foreplay, during foreplay he’s thinking about how he’s going to satisfy the female, and all the while at the back of his mind overshadowing his thoughts is that question, “Am I going to ejaculate too soon?”. This technique focuses on bringing you into the present and avoiding the negative emotion that’s brought on by thinking about what has happened in the past, or what might happen the next time you have sex.

Totally aside from sex, you can witness how we operate on auto-pilot. Everyday, we’re taking ourselves out of the present and into the future when we really don’t need to. Walking down the street you’re thinking of work, at work you’re thinking about sex, during sex...well, we know what you’re thinking about during sex. The point is, to fully relax and focus and enjoy sex for long periods, you need to be in the present. Inadvertently thinking about what might happen – ejaculating too soon – takes your focus off what is actually happening: you’re moving up the stimulation scale. This in turn hampers your ability to identify how close you are to an orgasm, making its prevention impossible.

This technique has one simple goal: to increase your self-awareness and bring you back into the present during sex. It’s used during the plateau stage of sex, the hard part, where keeping control of yourself is the most important and difficult. What you need to do is, every now and then, ask yourself a couple of simple questions in your head. “Do I feel tense or relaxed?” and “How close am I to reaching orgasm?”. It’s really important you say the questions in your head and not just “think” them. Actually say each word. The first question uses a simple psychological principle to relax you and bring you into the situation at hand. If, after asking yourself if you feel tense, you notice your shoulders are tight, or that you’re tensing your stomach when it’s not necessary, you don’t need to think of what to do next. Your shoulders automatically drop and your tense mid-section relaxes. Asking yourself the second question, “How close am I to reaching orgasm?” is something you should be doing throughout sex – identifying where you are on the stimulation scale. This brings you into the present and focuses you, but actually saying the question in your head once in a while is doubly effective!

Prejaculation covers the subject of premature ejaculation from every angle, starting with the real causes of the problem. The misconceptions and downright falsehoods surrounding the problem are blown out of the water straight away. Then it launches straight into the heart of the subject: how to STOP premature ejaculation and START having sex for as long as you damn well please—and let’s face it, this is what every man wants. The book covers the following in great detail:

- How to strengthen and tone your ‘PC muscle’, to give you greater control over when you come, as well as harder, longer lasting erections,

- What to eat and when to eat it to boost your sexual health and encourage blood flow to and from your penis,

- How to use sex positions the expert way, to have sex without stopping and without coming too soon.

It’s all written clearly and presented in the order in which you need to use the techniques. Plus, it has photos and diagrams to show you everything you need to know in clear way. To put it simply, if you’ve got a problem with not lasting long enough in bed, you can’t go wrong using this scientifically minded instructional book.

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Watch those Nipples. There’s so much you can tell by watching a woman’s nipples, as you are making love. When she really likes what’s happening to her, the nipples will swell up and grow to sometimes twice their normal size, and if she doesn’t like what’s going on, they will shrink again. Nips are your sex thermometer. Keep it HOT!

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When giving your guy a hand job, don’t forget his balls. I know a lot of guys who prefer a good hand job with some serious ball play, to both blowjobs and intercourse. Just start out by stroking and gently massaging, as things build up to a peak, you can get a lot more strenuous and he will dig it, but just be sure to keep watch for any reactions to pain.

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Strip poker is an excellent game to revive those old feeling of lust for your partner. A game with 2 to 6 couples, I prefer 4, makes for a crazy evening of safe and controlled, but wildly erotic playfulness. No one needs to actually be unfaithful of course, but the fact that the temptation is there just drives the whole group sexually wild, subconsciously.

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Sometimes a couple can spend a great session of erotic intimacy, just masturbating each other while kissing and playing around. There is a certain freedom that comes from the ability of not having your pelvises fused throughout the entire event, so you can check things out and experiment from other angles that otherwise would never be available.

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The top 10 favorite “Kinky Locations” to have sex, according to women polled between the ages of 18 and 45, are, in order from #1 on down to #10, The Beach, Elevators, Moving Cars, Nature trails, Hot Tubs, Dressing Rooms, In front of hotel windows, Public Restrooms, Balconies and Pools. The hottest place, but a huge risk nowadays, Airplanes!

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Dirty Talk Safe Zones: A lot of men love “dirty talk” during sex, but, with social conventions and such, many women aren’t comfortable, as it makes them feel cheap. They have their virtue to protect. No problem, create an agreed upon area or time frame, where anything goes and no one can judge or hold a grudge. A safe place to just play

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Public Sex: It is a proven, scientific fact that the combination of the adrenaline rush and the increased blood flow created by the speeded heartbeat, leads to very intense and extremely sensate climaxes. The very thrill of being in a strange or dangerous place, creates an adventure in the psyche, which is where 75% of sex actually takes place.

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Or-games: No more war games, make love not war. I say it’s time for Orgasm Games or what I like to call, “Or-Games!” Play! Sex is supposed to be fun, exciting, stimulating, instinctive, unpredictable, spontaneous and creative. Invent scenarios, play roles, or just goof around, enjoy one another’s company, make each other happy. Have FUN!

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Take your partner right up to the very brink of orgasm, and then slowly bring things back down to a stand still. This creates an extreme sense of exaggerated anticipation, which heightens the senses, each time they get close, but stop. Like a car shifting into higher gears, when your partner finally hits ecstasy, they’ll be cruising at about 150 M.P.H.

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The Art of Seduction by Conversation: Using ‘The Add-On Principle’ to Get the Girl

Persuasion is a universally recognisable component of our society. You see people influencing others everywhere you go: women trying to talk themselves out of speeding tickets, salesmen attempting to convince a potential buyer that a product’s for them, defence attorneys arguing that their client is innocent – persuasion is everywhere, used by all of us, all the time.

Somewhere it’s especially noticeable (and vital, if you want to be successful) is in the game of attraction and seduction. For a man to pick-up a girl – that is: find, approach, talk to her and arrange to take it further – he MUST understand and be able to use persuasive psychology. And it’s that fact many men are surprised by when they hear it – that being successful with women isn’t a God given talent or a roll of the dice; it’s a skill like anything else. Today you’re going to learn a little about that skill. We’re going to look at a special persuasive psychological technique that, when used, massively increases your chances with the ladies. It’s called ‘The Add-On Principle’.

Picture the scene: You’ve got talking to a girl and been chatting for a little while. You can tell she’s enjoying the conversation and think that she’s quite attracted to you, too. You decide you’d like to make something happen with this girl and see her again real soon but you aren’t sure of the best way to go about making that a reality. You don’t want to ruin the positive dynamic that you’ve worked so hard to create and you definitely don’t want to scare her off or get rejected. So, what can you do? Well, first of all, what do most guys do when they’re in this situation? I’ll tell you, they take one of three routes:

Route #1: CLICHÉD NUMBER REQUEST. The first route has been taken so many millions of times in the past that it’s nowadays almost an act of parody – it’s asking the girl for her number. Taking this route is, 9 times out of 10, a Plan B at best. When you ask a girl for her number you not only give her control of the situation (which means she can very easily say no or slip you a phoney number), you also highlight that moment of the conversation as what it really is: an attempt at picking her up. When she realises this, she’s turned off. No girl likes the idea of being picked-up because it seems sleazy and dangerous. For a girl to allow herself to be picked up, it must feel natural and unforced.

Route #2: GOING FOR IT. This route’s most often taken at night, in bars, clubs and parties – namely because the availability of alcohol makes this option seem a good idea. ‘Going for it’ means a guy will try to kiss the girl or cop a feel a little while after talking to her. Perhaps he’ll do it while they dance or as the venue is closing and they’re leaving. Again, it’s a bad idea because it makes the girl feel used and not in control.

Route #3: BOTTLING IT. This option, quite simply, involves choking at the last second – being unable to go through with a ‘closer’. The conversation’s gone great but the guy just doesn’t feel confident enough to propose meeting up again or something along those lines. As you can imagine, taking this route is a bad idea in regards to being successful with women.

So what do you do? The three routes above are bad, so what route can you take? Well, it goes without saying that you HAVE to run the risk of using a ‘closer’ if you want to see the girl again. Therefore, your goal is to make your offer – in whatever form it might take – seem like a natural, obvious, fun option for the girl to take. To achieve this, you should justify what you’re suggesting with a REASON you should both do it. For example: “Let’s swap numbers so we can talk about that book we both like.” Or, “We should get a coffee or hot chocolate some time, because I know a great little place that’s just opened and think you’d really like it.” When you follow up an offer (such as swapping numbers or going for a coffee) with a reason for doing it (to talk about something or because you know a nice little new place) you make the offer seem ATTRACTIVE and a NATURAL thing for the girl to say yes to. This is the essence of ‘The Add-On Principle’. When you employ it, try to always use the words “So” and “Because.” Our minds, when we hear these words, associate them with good reasons, they back things up for us in our heads. You can use this principle any time you want a suggestion you’ve made to a girl to be accepted and agreed to. For example: “Shall we go over and look at the jukebox, so we can put on some tunes we both like?” You’re taking away any hard work the girl needs to do in deciding whether or not she wants to go ahead with what you’re suggesting, simply because you’ve already given her a valid, natural-sounding reason to say “YES!”

Try it…you’ll be amazed at the results.

Rachel Davis is the author of Conversation-King, a guide that teaches men how to attract and seduce women by mastering the art of verbal communication.

Conversation-King is an ebook that specialises in teaching men just like you the art of talking to women confidently and easily. Each component of successful verbal interaction is covered, from what to say when you first approach and get talking to a girl, to how the power of your voice – regardless of what you look like – can create a deep feeling of sexual attraction in the minds of women you chat to

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How to Sell More Jewelry Directly from Your Blog

by Rena Klingenberg

Your blog is an excellent tool for selling your jewelry online. In fact, many jewelry artists sell their work exclusively from their blogs.

You can stir up your readers' interest in your work by blogging about how your jewelry is created, what's unique about a particular piece or component, what the piece signifies to you, what happened while you were creating it, etc.

Basically, give the piece of jewelry a history and an interesting story. Let the tale unfold over a few blog posts.

Stories sell jewelry. And stories told in episodes gain more readers with each new episode.

Use your blog to build up anticipation for each new piece of jewelry or new design you're working on. Build suspense and desire – and then unveil the piece. Launch it with a bit of fanfare. Invite readers to comment.

You can put a discreet “buy now” button right there in your blog, directly beneath the photo of the newly unveiled piece of jewelry. Many artists are able to sell each new piece they make, directly from their blog, with these techniques.

Remember that your jewelry blog visitors don't just want information; they want to be entertained. And the better you entertain them, the more they'll bring other people to your blog – and to your jewelry.

It's sort of the modern version of being a traveling artist in Medieval days – you gather an interested crowd by spinning stories and entertaining your audience as you make jewelry.

When the jewelry is finished and its story has been told, there's always a well-entertained customer eager to buy it. And the rest of the crowd spreads the word to tell their friends and family about the entertaining jewelry artist.

Repeat this process indefinitely. And once you really develop a following and people see how fast your new stuff disappears, your new pieces will go even faster.

People will pay for things they love, regardless of the price. Your job is to help them fall in love with it, and feel the urgency to buy it before someone else does.

Occasionally post blog entries to tell stories about other things that your audience would laugh about or care deeply about. But make it into a personal conversation with them, putting your own words and heart into it.

This kind of story can be triggered by something you saw in the news, or in another blog or forum. For example, if you're making mothers' bracelets and your market is moms, you might share an emotional story you read about saving childhood memories.

Make your readers laugh, make them cry, make them feel.

Emotions are powerful, and if you can make your audience feel something, they'll come back for more – and share it with their friends.

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You should know that humor is important for dating and laughter can swiftly open up a woman's heart. Whenever your interaction with a woman is a bit flat or if you happen to be in a difficult or embarrassing situation, you can always use humor to boost the dynamics or diffuse the tension.

And humor is a common trait of men who are good with women. It demonstrates confidence, a light outlook on life and the ability to have fun (together with others).

Unfortunately, not every man can be said to be humorous.

Sure, almost any man can crack a joke or two, but not every man can do it with consistency and make any woman laugh at any time, any place? Even worse, there's a common misconception claiming that humor is quality for a small group of "gifted" man. Some men think "I'm just not born to be funny guy. What can I possibly do?"

But the fact is, the "sense" of humor CAN be acquired through learning and practicing. Making women laugh is a science, because human beings' reactions to different types of "humor stimuli" are predictable, and there are tested-and-proven methods to match a piece of humor with a subject's education, personality, and cultural background to induce laughter.

Any man -- regardless of looks, intelligence, wealth, education, personality, cultural background, location, etc. -- can unleash his power of humor to make women laugh and fall in love. And it doesn't matter if you already have a good sense of humor, or if you frequently get "caught off guard" when certain dating situations demand funny and smart responses.

So here's the good news: Renowned dating coach Martin Merrill has specifically designed a course to train men how to be more humorous in dating. If you would like to be empowered with the ability to make any woman laugh at any time and any place, then you've got to check out this course.


You can find out more by clicking on the following link:
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Monday, February 16, 2009

5 first date mistakes men make

1st Date Mistakes Men Make That End In Heartbreak and How To Avoid Them

Let's face it­­ you never get a second chance to make a first impression!

That's why, if you want to take things further with a woman, you need to show her your best on the very first date. And in actual fact, there are 5 things that men consistently do on first dates that totally destroy their chances of seeing the woman again, and the worst part is they think they're doing it right!

Avoid the following 5 mistakes to increase your chances of success on your first date:

Mistake #1: Buying gifts - Bringing chocolate or flowers on a first date isn't the best idea - especially if you've just met the woman! She's there to get to know YOU. Women are always asking themselves "what does THAT mean?" And in this case it's, "He bought me flowers because he likes me, but he doesn't even know anything about me yet! A little suspicious.

Mistake #2: Being Mr. Serious - When in the presence of a potential date, men often become boring, instead of keeping up the friendly vibe they have with their friends. They won’t make jokes or laugh with the woman, they won’t play around like they do with their friends and they generally take things a little too seriously. Why do men change their behavior around women,
often without even realizing they’re doing it? Because they fear losing their only chance with the girl of their dreams, they try and play the safe side, which results in a “Mr. Serious.”

Mistake #3: Conducting an Interview - When men become "Mr. Serious" they often fall into "job interview conversation mode." Make sure you reserve questions like, "So where do you work?" or "How many brothers and sisters do you have?" for the future, after you've already had a lot of fun and made the sparks fly. Instead, talk about your hobbies, interesting stories and fun stuff. Avoid anything too deep for a long period of time. On a first date, it can make things a little depressing. Talk like you've known each other for years (as if you don’t need to do the awkward 20-questions quiz.) Of course you can ask basic questions, but never make it the main focus of your date. Focus on fun.

Mistake #4: Being too needy and direct - Without realizing it, many guys turn their dates off by trying a little too hard. For example: Men will lean into a woman’s personal space, and ask, "so do you like me?" or constantly change his opinion to seek her approval and make her like him. Big mistake. Ironically, it's leaning back, staying cool and calm, being a little cheeky, interesting, mysterious and comfortable with yourself that actually gets a woman's attention and keeps her interested.

Mistake #5: Going to boring places - If your date finds the night boring, you're finished. When it comes to having fun on first dates, nothing is more important than what you do. And while dinners and movies are nice, it's really hard to leave a great impression in these settings. Why? Because they set a very "proper tone" that's hard to turn into fun and playful. And unless
you're a super funny, intelligent and interesting guy, dinner and movie dates just aren't the best place to take your date. Instead, go to fun places like mini-golf parks, carnivals, parks, or even better, come up with your own unique and fun ideas.

So in essence, while there are many factors to having a successful date, a great date idea really helps you do many of them naturally! Remember, where you take a woman on a first date can be the difference between a great night and a dating disaster! Choose wisely!

About the author:
Oprah Expert Michael Webb is the author of 300 Creative Dates, a book jam-packed with unique ways to help leave a great first impression without breaking the bank!

To learn more, visit the creative date ideas site

Sunday, February 15, 2009

fruitcake lady

OMG the things you stumbleupon in life.. this is one of em.. check out the fruitcake lady.. she sure knows her shit.. straight up.. enjoy!!

Thursday, February 12, 2009

valentines day for singles

ahhh Valentines the one romantic day for lovers to express and show the love to their significant other.. flowers.. wining and dining.. maybe a lil boogie woogie and lots of passionate lovemaking between the sheets.. but hey what about for those of us that are singles? should we be missing out on all the fun? HELL NOOO!! just like this wacky guy in the vid below.. singles can have fun too!!

For a great valentines (and beyond).. why not come to the parade? The NEW Sydney Gay & Lesbian Mardi Gras Parade is a 3 week long celebration of dance parties.. arts.. culture.. sports Feb 14th - 7th Mar .. with the actual parade on March 7th.. be hip and be seen at the hottest event of the year .. you dont have to be gay to go to the parade!!

what are you singles up to? post your comments below..

Wednesday, February 11, 2009

sex with your date


To sleep or not to sleep with someone on the first date — or after a chance meeting, for that matter — is a decision most modern, hip daters face. Yet between husky purrs, succulent kisses and various attire strewn onto the floor, that decision often becomes an subsquent afterthought.

It can be hard to resist sexual advances on a first date. Signals of attraction are very seductive, like lip-licking, head tossing and hot, lingering stares. People have trouble resisting such opportunistic temptation, especially if they are with a sizzling hot risk-taker who wants to get nasty. Is sex on the first date a common occurrence? Has sex replaced the kiss at the front door?

Is sex right on a first date? There's no question of right or wrong in these cases. That's a judgement which reflects society's double standards on sex, particularly with regard to women.

I always used to think it was naughty to have sex on the first date because lots of guys are still in that double standards frame of mind where they think that if you put out too soon, you're seen as too easy, that you must be a slut, and therefore they will have no respect for you and won't want to see you again. But then sometimes you meet someone you're so attracted to, and it feels like love at first sight, the chemistry is explosive and you know that even if you sleep with them that first night, it will make no difference because there's such strong attraction bond and you're obviously sooooo into each other.

The one and only time I slept with someone on a first date, I ended up married to the guy, but I don't think it exists any more that men don't take a woman seriously if she does. And as you get older, you don't want to waste any time.

First dates are typically meant to get to know someone, to break the ice, so to speak, and to find out whether or not a second or third date is on the cards. First date etiquette, can mean nerves, trying too hard too impress, excess alcohol, and attempting your best at being a someone your date feels drawn to. Some of us can even be quite rusty in the dating dept, like starting to date again after a break up or divorce. Or dating for the wrong reasons, like trying to make an ex jealous. But lets face it, somewhere in the back of your mind when your sliding on your dior lip gloss and slipping into your Jimmy Shoo heels in preparation for date night, there is that burning question, will I or wont I?

I believe only the individual can answer that. Dating in the 21st century has evolved. We just do what feels right, dictated by our level of attraction, how comfy we are, and how they make us feel. There is no right or wrong in deciding to go all out or not. Everyone has their own personal reasons to have sex on the first date.

Sometimes people desire too but can be unsure, they have mixed questions going on in their head like:
If you have sex with someone on the first date you'll later wonder if the person still likes you..
if they'll call you again..
if they've been with other people and how many..
what type of future you'll have..
and so on.

and I say big friggen woop.. so what if they dont call, so what if they dont like you, big deal how may others they think youve been with.. and if theres no repeat date, ohh geez im gonna cry.. like get over it already.. lifes too short to be thinking like that. Date sex is usually a mutual agreement, one in which was entered into with both parties consenting, so why all the hang ups? You cant win sometimes. Friends have told me theyve stopped dating girls after the first date coz of their refusal to have sex on the first date, others have said they wouldnt want to see a girl again if she did, so I just say do whatever feels right.

Some feel its better to wait, others want to start things off with a bang, (pun intended) either way, theres no right or wrong. What are your thoughts?

For further reading about attraction on date night I recommend this:

The Players Guide To Seducing Women

Sex With Any Woman You Want Is Within Your Reach, If You Know How To Play The Game! Learn How To Communicate With Women And Respond To Their Needs. The Players Guide EBook And Audio Series Will Reveal The Secrets To Seduction.

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Tuesday, February 10, 2009

the words we find the hardest to say


for some people, its hard to say I love you, or im sorry when you dont feel I love you or that your sorry. We have all been desensitized to some extent, by the way we bottle up our feelings time and time again, that when it comes to saying it when we want to say it, we feel it becomes almost meaningless and void.

some people cannot grasp the true meaning of love and forgiveness, and more so, feel an inadequacy that those simple spoken words are not enough, and that they are uttered for all the wrong reasons, too soon, too late, or being dictated they are a sign of weakness and vulnerability.

another interesting characteristic, though many can’t and don’t say, I Love You, they think that their partner understands that fact. They believe that love should just be known. Unable to express love, they feel that they should just be understood.

This couldnt ring true enough when I walked in on my bf shaving one morning. He had just applied a thick layer of white foamy shaving creme, and I told him he looked like a cute santa clause. He replied by saying this is how he will look like when he's 80, and he hoped I will like the look. WHOA! I felt he seemed to be emanating I love you at me, but why were the words so hard to say?

Saying I love you is soul bearing, creates a sense of permanency and carries alot. Its kinda like it says look at me im ashamed and naked. In the case of men, they feel like they are giving up their control, to most men power equals survival mechanisim, and the fact it means a huge leap of trust. In a world built around dominant competition and rivalry, the idea of trusting is somewhat alien to a mans nature and revealing their vulnerability is something that most men find extremely hard to do.

For further reading I recommend this

How To Captivate A Man, Make Him Fall In Love With You And Give You The World!

Here's the hidden key to a loving relationship. Men want to be enraptured by a woman. They may not admit it openly, but they want to be lured, finessed, bewitched, possessed and seduced by a woman -- and they don't mind surrendering to her siren maneuverings and be rendered powerless by her. A man would gladly give anything to the woman who can make him feel good.

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Monday, February 9, 2009

how to get back together with your ex


Youve busted up, and it prolly got nasty, stinging words thrown like darts, aimed at the heart. The light of your life has left and your world suddenly seems so cold and bleak. What was once a cozy warm togetherness now feels lonely and empty. Your self esteem takes a big nose dive and you feel so worthless.

Perhaps you have made some mistakes, perhaps you reached your boiling point, perhaps you want to teach your partner a lesson, perhaps maybe alot of things have happened for you to reach the point where you are now. But im here to tell you theres hope.

Now dont get me wrong, im not suggesting you get back with a partner that has been abusive or violent, no, what im saying is no matter what the situation is of the break up, no situation is unsalvageable!!

When it comes to saving a relationship, most people have no idea what to do or even where to begin. This usually results in resorting to every tactic imaginable to win them back. The problem with this approach is that it comes across as needy and desperate and will push your ex away, killing any chance of getting back together. You're trying to figure out how to get over a broken heart, so it's understandable that your emotions may try to lead your actions.

I feel there are 3 very important steps to prepare in getting back with your ex.

1) Create the space in your life for your relationship and that means dedication, commitment to making it work, and prolly alot of apologies. Acknowledge their uniqueness, their emotions, their expectations and goals.

2) Admit your mistakes it time to eat some humble pie. No one is perfect, we have all made mistakes along the line. Sometimes MAJOR ones. But however big or small they are, you must take responsibility for your part, and learn from them.

3) Giving them time by giving them their space, you indicate that you are not desperate and needy, by feeling overly anxious to win your ex back can lead you to act in a way that comes across as desperate. Your ex knows you very well and can sense that you're chasing them and pressuring them for a reunion. The natural human reaction is to resist.

What if? What they said and what they did could be "bottled" so to speak? And then you could "unbottle" it and put it to use? To erase old hurts...to reignite passion again, to turn back to a time when your relationship was fresh, new and exciting. Instead of working against human nature, work with it.

I must WARN YOU…STRONGLY WARN YOU…the advice and methods are VERY unconventional. Relationship counselors get REALLY ANGRY because they are charging $50 to $100 an hour (sometimes for months and even years) when I can whisper just one of the methods in my friends ear…and he DOES IT, and next thing you know, he's back home, on the couch watching House with his fiance on Wednesday nights.

If you are one of the thousands that are miserable and longing to get back with you ex, then I strongly urge you to read this report and take action!!

We all have been there, dumped, hurt and confused. It can be pure torture, but there are ways to get your ex back without going through all the mental anguish. Read on to find out some stunning ways which you can get your ex back where they belong... WITH YOU!!

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