Monday, March 30, 2009

are you sexually frustrated?

There are many manuals that attempt to teach us about how we can satisfy our partner in bed, and we've all prolly read them a hundred times over. However, the mystery still remains!

Men are from Mars and women are from Venus!

Today im taking time out to discuss the popular topic of female orgasm, which I feel even in todays modern age, is still a largely unexplored area. The reasons for this is many. Society on a whole is responsible for dictating that in bed, although we are highly sexual beings, his orgasm remains the paramount goal. Its OK if she doesnt, in fact, we are conditioned to think its not that important, that reaching one is not even an objective!

While many couples trudge on thru life and accept this, at a deeper level it can be the root of many sexual frustrations that permeate into other areas. You will prolly not even notice its happening and what the causes are. But sexual frustration is real and it can be dangerous.

Lets explore this a lil deeper. As we said, men and women are definately a breed of their own, and these differences are apparent in the bedroom. When it comes to sex, men usually are the ones that climax sooner than what we women do.

During the courtship period, alot of time is spent getting to know our partner, taking the time to learn what they enjoy and what turns them on. The sex is mindblowing coz of the genuine desire to please and satisfy! We continuously are thinking of new and exciting ways to experiment with and indulge.

After sometime together, things can grow stale. We stop trying, sex becomes almost a chore, an activity we perform out of duty. Which is kinda sad. Many times have I seen couples out on my walks.. and im quite shocked at seeing them just striding along, no conversation, no holding hands, no affection.. and I think to myself, they look so unhappy, which naturally has me thinking their sex life is definately lacking!!

Some guys can be selfish too. Like we discussed, guys do tend to reach orgasm much faster than women do and when they do its all over! They roll off and start snoring! Meanwhile the woman is slowly cursing under her breath and wondering why she even bothers! Not to mention the negative feelings she manifests associated with frustration, like "Has he gone off me?.. "Is he cheating?".. "Whats gone wrong?" Oh my does this sound familiar?

This slowly creates resentment, which in turn can lead to other behaviours such as reduced sexual intimacy, infidelity, sexual frustration, relationship withdrawl. She may seem to nag you, finding fault in everything you do, and lose interest. Pretty soon, sex is going to look a whole lot less appealing, as she turns to self pleasuring and finding she gets more pleasure masturbating. This isnt harmful in itself, there are plenty of men that get off on the thought of their partners using toys and fingers, but it does become a problem if self pleasuring is used as a permanent solution rather than trying to achieve orgasm with your lover.

Relationship Withdrawl .. when sex is constantly a disappointment, this can lead to the woman withdrawing. She avoids moments of intimacy, and the longer this goes on the further apart you will drift.

Infidelity.. Its a real possibility when your sex life is sexually frustrating. For the woman, its usually more than just seeking sexual fulfillment, it goes deeper, to a more emotional level. She wants reasurrance that shes still attractive, craves romance, wooing, and the spontaniety of a new lover that takes the time to explore and satisfy. Women are fed up with the same old routine, and if it has been allowed to go on long enough, she will feel awkward asking for things to change. Therefore, she ends up with someone else rather than trying things differently.

Resentment.. sooner or later, resentment starts to manifest itself in other areas in your relationship. She will seem always on your back for one thing or another. Men will usually pass this off as her having a bad day or "that time of the month" . Instead of taking the time to discuss these issues with her partner, her mind starts playing her, and start a whole new level of negativity circulating. This has a habit of exploding during the tiniest of situations we normally dont bat an eye to, which leads us to say things we dont mean to say.

Unfortunately, the art of communication is lost, and this is the key I believe to dealing with mismatched sex drives and sexual dyfunctions. Im speaking as a woman here, but this is two way. Both sexes can feel sexual frustration with their partner. We can re-learn the passion that drew us together in the first place. There is NO excuse why we cant. Job, kids, running a household all take time and great effort, but at the end of the day, we should all be making the time to connect and show the love. Divorces are very common these days and usually over the flimsiest of reasons, when we can avoid the situations that slowly lead up that path, but dont make the effort to. How sad.

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Thursday, March 26, 2009

a guide to talking dirty and cybersex tips

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One of the questions I get asked constant is how can I become a great lover or cybersex lover and keep my partner wanting more. We ask ourselves things like "How do I begin?" "What do I say?" Yet, no matter how clueless we are, we all want to learn the words that will drive our partners crazy.

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Monday, March 23, 2009

words are so easy to say show me love

words are so easy to say.. you got to show me love.. action speaks louder than words.. so baby if you want me you gotta show me love.. show me show me baby..

Wednesday, March 18, 2009

date the hot women of facebook

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gaining control

First of all, we need to clarify something. What is premature ejaculation? Well, snoozing science stuff aside, all it really means is that you don’t last as long in bed as you really want to – you ejaculate too soon.

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Sunday, March 15, 2009

what girls really want in their relationships

The psychoanalyst Sigmund Freud once asked, “What do women want?” and, famously, he was never able to answer it. But what women want isn’t such a mystery. Relationship experts, sociologists and therapists have been studying the interactions between the sexes for decades, and they tend to agree on five basic things that woman require in a relationship.

1. Faithfulness.

It goes as far back as the cave-dwelling times, social archeologists say, when women were stuck tending the fire and raising the babies while their mate spent the day out hunting down dinner with a spear and a rock.

To stay safe and protect her young, she wanted the father of her children to come home at night, and it was nerve-wracking if her didn’t.

Now, you may use a computer keyboard and a Rolodex to keep food on the table instead of rocks and spears, but the same emotional concerns apply – she wants to know that you’ll be there when she needs you. It speaks to her most fundamental feelings about safety, and if she can’t trust you, it’s scary.

2. Kindness.

Forget the tough-guy act – women want men who are considerate, thoughtful and, above all, kind. They want someone who’ll put an arm around them when they cry, who’ll bring them a cup of soup when they’re sick, who’ll pet their dog and play Legos with their child.

They want to know that you’ll listen to how they got into a fender-bender and help them to feel better, not yell at them for wrecking the car. Women spend a lot of time nurturing others, and when they’re in a relationship they want to get a little nurturing in return.

Most women who have extramarital affairs report that it wasn’t sex that led them to stray, it was attention and understanding – they had affairs with men who listened to their problems and treated them with kindness. If they’d been getting that attention at home, they wouldn’t have felt the need to cheat.

3. Equality.

Women want to be a partner in a relationship, not a father or an overgrown child. In surveys about relationships, women overwhelmingly say that they want a partner who’ll stand by their side, be their best friend, and really listen to what they say – celebrating their successes and commiserating with their failures.

They want a man who will recognize and appreciate what she brings to the relationship, and not denigrate them to keep them in a lesser, secondary role. They want someone by their side who’ll encourage them to grow, and to achieve their dreams, knowing that being with a successful woman doesn’t make them any less of a man.

4. Helpfulness.

When asked what they’d most like to hear their husband or boyfriend say, most women answering surveys say they want to hear, “What can I do to help?”

As much as men hate being nagged by women, women hate nagging men – they really do. An offer to do some chore that isn’t usually your job, like laundry or the dishes, will make you a hero in a woman’s eyes.

While researchers have established that women have an ability to multitask that’s far superior to men’s, that ability makes many women take on more than they can comfortably handle.

Even if she doesn’t have children, the average woman’s day includes everything involved with her job plus cooking, cleaning, laundry, remembering birthdays, planning get-togethers, paying bills, mediating fights between family members ... and those six little words, “What can I do to help?” is like throwing a rope to a drowning woman. And remember, women are taught from childhood to see helpfulness as a sign of caring, so by offering her help you’re offering her emotional support, as well.

5. Respect.

Romance is all well and good, but in a long-term relationship, a woman wants your respect. She’s very likely holding down a full-time job, just like you, and maneuver her way through a world that still, no matter how smart and successful she may be, judges her by the thickness of her waist and the style of her shoes.

Women handle the bulk of the emotional work in their relationships (and, often, on the job, too) and studies show that they still do most of the housework even if they work full time.

And yet, almost every day they meet at least one man who thoughtlessly demeans them, whether it’s by saying, “You’d look much prettier if you were smiling!” or by calling them “sweetheart” and speaking to them as if they haven’t a brain in their head. Women want to be respected for the enormous amount of work they do, for how hard it is to juggle everything that they have on their plate, and how much emotional support they give the people around them.

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Saturday, March 14, 2009

friends with benefits

Hi All,

Wow what a lovely Sunday and weekend Ive been having. Saturday was me day.. I took myself off to the beautician for a day of pampering. I got a pedi, manicure and a mild dermabrasion facial. My facial skin now feels smooth and fresh. I usually get these treatments done every 3 months or so and try more often in the summer months. Saturday night Mr C and I escaped for some pool and a few drinks with some friends in town, later spending the night at his place watching all night DVD's.

Sunday it was the usual family BBQ gettogether.. and then an afternoon drive to our usual haunt.. which we decided to have some fun at. As you all know from.. Epifanny On A Sunday we played out a re-enactment with an 'alternate' erotic outcome. I am in the midsts of writing about this encounter as we speak and should have it published in a few days. So make sure to look out for it. I will of course announce it in the DATING GAME FORUM as I do so.

Anyways.. tonight, as we were sitting at the beach, we began delving into the more interesting aspects of our relationship. It seems his stubbornness has finally effected any chance for him to get back with his ex, (yes its complicated) despite of constant urges of what should be done. Although it may sound complicated, im not in the traditional sense the other woman. No. It has never been that way. Its more an exclusive friends with benefits type of arrangement, that has just worked well for both of us. I cannot see him as my fulltime boyfriend, nor do I desire to be in the girlfriend/wifee role. What is that exactly? Well you know, picking up after him, cooking, washing up after him.. taking his shit.. no thanks.. so in this way we have the best of both worlds.. we live apart.. have seperate independent lives.. but we urgently come together for fun times and for friendship.. he tells me everything about what goes on in his life.. shares his joys and fears.. and openly tells me his thoughts about us.. one positive aspect I know for sure is non-existant in normal togetherness.. he trusts me implicitly and I with him.. doesnt get all hung up if I have other male/female friends.. and we get along famously.. so I think to myself.. why rock the boat.. why change things??

Perhaps some of you have been in a friends with benefits type relationship? What do you define as friends with benefits? Would love to hear your thoughts.. both positive or negative..

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Wednesday, March 11, 2009

prop 8 the musical

thx so much to @LilitheMagdalen for sharing this with me... on the subject of jack Black in pantyhose LOL

but seriously peep like harvey milk fought the briggs proposal of the late 70's prop 6 we too should take a tough no tolerance stance with prop 8 and spread love not hatred like the vid urges..

Sunday, March 8, 2009

2009 Sydney Gay & Lesbian Mardi Gras

frak me.. what a celebration.. one of the best this year has seen.. Mr C and I were in a cant bloody wait for it frame of mind for weeks leading up to it and what fun we had.. arriving just as the last of the floats was trailing slowly down Elizabeth St alongside Hyde Park.. we were of course trying to chase it down before it hit Oxford St but were overcome by the crowds.. an estimated 500,000 of em!! stomping over beer bottles and broken glass..

we ended up staying in the park where along with thousand other revellers decided to partay on there.. the music was sooo loud.. the atmosphere so happy and there was soooo many lively characters that were so hard not to deliciously ogle over.. devils.. nurses.. sexy school girls/boys.. slaves.. mistresses.. coppers.. fantasy boys/girls.. at every turn there was a feast for the senses..

Mr C was dressed in tight black addidas bike shorts.. open black industrie shirt.. Docs and YES!! my sexy man did come in eyeliner and lippy !! YAY!! pleased my boy lived up to his promise.. I was complimenatry in off the shoulder black fitted cotton silky and flowing black almost knee length goth skirt with heavy eyeliner and fake lashes and glossy pout.. I wore my black slides and applied heaps of body shine..

we took a slow walk down to a packed out Oxford and ended up squeezing in the Xchange.. booty scootin and watching all the beautiful people.. then later at the Courthouse where we stayed until the wee wee hours .. lots of rowdiness.. spillage on to the street.. passed out people.. but all in all a fantastic time had by all.. below are some of the pictures from Hyde Park.. and a fantasic video I managed to snag from You Tube .. enjoy!!

This was the first pic I took when we arrived.. the tail end of the actual parade.. the view across to Hyde Park from Bathurst St Elizabeth St along with dozens more were closed to traffic.. traffic from Bathurst St diverted north along Elizabeth

These are pictures from the scene at Hyde park where we stayed for most of the night before we ventured in Oxford St

And finally makin it home.. reflecting on the night

Thursday, March 5, 2009

tray and me

Awwww shucks my good buddy Tray went and made a beautiful video of us depicting our wonderful friendship. I met Tray in 2006 when just starting off online at the (then) popular social networking site BOLT. She watched a few of my vids and we just sorta clicked.. and have been unseperatable ever since. We have had our tantrums and good times.. and sometimes we even lose touch for a bit but we always find one another again.. its like magic. We share everything.. joy sadness laughs tears.. fears .. just so much.. love u Tray :)

Sunday, March 1, 2009

Tray thinks I like to use my tongue alot !

My friend Tray thinks I like using my tongue alot!! haha..perhaps shes right.. watch this funny vid she put together and judge for yourself :)

this guy is trying to work things out LOL

OMG I couldnt stop PML with this.. his wife catches him out getting his skanky ass spanked by a ?? my bet is shes a tranny... and he says "his just trying to work things out".. LOL watch it and judge the situation yourself.. BUSTED!!!