Tuesday, July 28, 2009

the importance of using the correct lube for anal sex

As much as we love anal sex, there are a few that are quite clueless that know what is the correct lube to use. This is a very important part of preparation for anal sex, for comfort and safety reasons. Firstly, the anal passage lacks its own natural lubrication, can be quite sensitive, tight and suseptible to minor cuts. Therefore, the correct lube is of paramount importance.

There are lots of lubes on the market. Water based, oil based, desensitising, natural, flavoured, silcone based, warming, cooling, tingling, enhancing, & moisturising. However, the safest and most practical lube for anal sex is plain water based ones. Water based lube is longer lasting and thicker textured which is suitable for anal sex. The use of oil based lube can weaken the rubber of the condom, so is best avoided and reserved for regular vaginal sex, masturbation or private indulgance with sex toys. Under no circumstances should you use a spermicide/HIV lubed condom, as this can be very irratative. Nonoxynol-9 the common ingredient found in these condoms was created for use as an industrial cleaner. It is abrasive and may cause cuts to the anal passage, thus increasing the chances of spreading disease.

If fear of pain is causing some apprehension of trying anal sex, you may find a water based desensitising lube more to your liking. This not only lubricates, but also has additional benefit of creating a slight numbing sensation that can help reduce the pain.

For a truly smooth almost pain free anal sex experience, the selection and use of the correct lube is important for both partners. Getting it right first go will enhance your experience and definately make it more pleasurable. For you guys thats good news, as a happy satisfied partner will want to repeat the performance. What fun that would be to have a willing sexually attuned partner ready for anal sex whenever you are.

Here are some of the lubes I highly recommend for comfortable anal sex:



desensitising water based lube

plain water based lube

plain water based lube

Saturday, July 25, 2009

my first year at twitter

TWITTER is no doubt the most fastest growing social network platform esp in the last 12 months. There really is no right or wrong way to 'tweet' in my opinion, despite all the so called "twitter etiquette how tos", people flock to twitter for very diverse and equally different reasons, for some its to build and establish their biz and for others purely for the interactivity.

I am one of those people. I have been using twitter now for aprox a year and have many times come close even to calling myself a "twitaholic". My usage of twitter has varied. I find I get into different "twittering moods". For example, I may use music or quotes to put forth my feelings, ramble, sneak in subtle innuendo, interact, post links to my articles or fun stuff and generally try to make others feel good about themselves.

All in all, twitter has taught me alot in human behaviours. I have learnt people can be shallow, kind, mean, caring, uncaring, rude, straightforward, quiet, selfish, happy, mushy, pushy, almost every kind you can find on twitter. This is what makes it quite a good mix I find, esp with my moods. Sometimes I cant stand all mushy goodness and all I want is someone to stand up and tell it like it is, expose the raw human emotions of this life, and other times all I want is pinky softness and backrubs. Twitter gives me this, so I just slot myself in and become one of the crowd. Singulary, we may think we dont contribute much, but as a collective, I believe we are a very powerful voice.

Twitter too is responsible for my decision to cull back my use of social networks. It wasnt that long ago that I became a member of every major SN out there, you name it I was there. But in the end it all got so time consuming, not to mention it eating away at your valuable productive time. So thesedays twitter serves as an all in one service for me. I can post links, photos, videos, pass on relevant info to my followers all thru twitter, without having to use seperate networks. It saves me alot of time and allows me to concentrate my efforts in one place rather than stress at the thought of updating stuff everywhere. Just the way I like it.

Twitter yes is here to stay, and I believe will keep expanding. I have enjoyed my first year at twitter, have met some wonderful people, learnt alot, and equally been taught alot. Freedom of speech rules and everyone big and small alike have their right to express themselves.

Followers come and go its a fact of life. You cant make everyone happy, but there is a market for everyone, whatever point your trying to make. Below is an interesting audio from the editor at large from the Oxford Dictionary on the findings of their closely studying twitter behaviours.






Thursday, July 16, 2009

A sensual massage in the bathtub

One of the ways a woman gives herself a relaxing treat is by soaking in a long, hot bath so you can take this opportunity to really giver her a treat by preparing a bath for her. Of course, with other ‘extra treats’ as only you can provide.

How to Prepare a ‘Proper’ Bath for Her

No guys, a bath is not just filling the tub with hot water and pouring some bubble bath solution in it. If you’re going to do this, do it good and create the right ambiance for her.

First, close the windows and blinds and submerge the whole bathroom in darkness. Next, light some candles. They can be scented or not depending on what you use for the… scented oil you want to place on the burner or oil diffuser.

So for example, if you’re using vanilla oil on the oil diffuser, don’t use strawberry-scented candles as the heady, super sweet smells will most likely give you both a headache. Aim for one scent or like what’s mentioned above, use non-scented candles if you’re going to burn scented oils.

Also, don’t scrimp on the candles ok? The more, the merrier!

Next, put on some soothing music and make sure it’s not too loud or too soft. To test this, turn the music on and go into the bathroom and close the door a bit. Check if the music level is just right.

Next, make sure everything you need is within reach. It’s not good if you break the sexual massage all the time by running out of the bathroom! Plus, it’s not good for the overall warm temperature in the bathroom. Just put everything you need on a tray and set this on the toilet or on a small chair.

Don’t forget a few edible treats. A glass of wine or champagne and a platter of crackers and cheese are sexy and will make you both last long during the sexual massage.

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Sexual Massage Moves in the Bath

For starters, let her soak in the bath for about 5 to 10 minutes just to loosen her tight muscles and wracked nerves. Don’t join her in the bath just yet.
Start sexually massaging her while you’re still outside the tub. Sit on the edge or pull up a chair and use a wooden massage roller and move this along her body.

You can also position yourself at the top edge of the tub so you can massage her head. Slip your hands under her shoulders and then draw them up and out. A variation of this step is to pull your hands along the underside of the head, with your fingers against the back of the neck.

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Feel free to shampoo her hair too. The pressure of your hands on her scalp in combination with the soft suds of the shampoo will feel great. Besides, this is the beauty of a sexual massage in the bathroom, no cares for the all the water and soap that might spill on the floor.

Now, without breaking your massage strokes, climb into the bathtub and join her. Sit behind her with her back to yours (sort of like spoon to spoon). Start massaging her shoulders and work your way to her lower back. And now comes the best part… massaging her front.

Start by reaching over and cupping her breasts (gently!). You can use the soap suds or better yet, put more soap gel on your hands and start massaging her breasts as if you were trying to create a lot of lather!

Tease her by massaging her breasts, moving to her shoulders, going back to her breasts, going down and rubbing her stomach, back to hear breasts again. Each time, be a bit more daring and go lower and lower her front. For instance, just massage or ‘clean’ her belly button with your finger and then go back to her breasts before going down to her pubic area.

Here’s a naughty tip for you: unless your woman has gone Brazilian (i.e., has had all her pubic hair shaved off) you can try ‘shampooing’ her hair down there! Simply apply the same strokes you would as if you were washing her hair.

As a climax to this hot tub sexual massage, you may go ahead and insert your finger in her ‘sweet spot’. Remember, this should be part of the sexual massage and should not be seen as the sexual act itself so be gentle while you finger her. The objective is not to make her come but to simply ‘connect’ with that special place as well. Good luck!

Try my HOTTEST tips to satisfy her tonight and you will have her begging for more tomorrow…and the next day…and the next day. Go to:female oragsm revealed

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Gabrielle Moore is an expert on female intimacy.. teaching men and women the true art of seduction.. mindblowing sexual techniques and new and exciting ways to please your lover

Wednesday, July 8, 2009

have you ever had anal sex?

anal the taboo forbidden desire... not all of us love it or have had it.. but the majority do think about it and quite a few have engaged in it.. whether its with a regular partner.. gay/bi/straight.. with total strangers.. sex workers.. masturbation.. anal does cross our minds and most of us love it and get turned on by it.. xxtreme anal and double penetration anal we see alot of in movies.. and it looks ohh so hot and tempting.. but how many of you have actually had anal?.. and how often and in what way?.. take the time to fill in this poll so we may all find out just what you freaks are into and what turns you on about anal.. do u use protection?.. lube?.. have you experienced ass to mouth?.. oral in the anal area? .. anal with a stranger?.. gay/bi anal?.. have you used anal toys?.. do u enjoy anal xxtreme?.. have you ever been an ass slave?.. do you worship butt?.. are you concerned about any mess?..have you ever been fisted anally?.. does anal hurt?.. do you prefer anal to regular sex?.. i could go on and on about anal..

be honest and answer as many that apply.. all info is anon so let have sum fun and find out what turns us on.. and lets share the knowledge..

its pretty straight forward.. just select your answers.. and cast your votes!!