Tuesday, November 15, 2011

why is it difficult for women to reach orgasm?

According to reports, roughly 70% of women don’t reach an orgasm during intercourse. Although that figure in itself is shocking, it also makes you wonder about how many women never orgasm at all (i.e., intercourse or not)!

A lot of flack fall on men on why women don’t experience an orgasm but truth be told, women have a lot to do about this as well whether they realize it or not.

6 Reasons Why Women DON’T Climax

Foreplay? What foreplay?

Foreplay is extremely important. For women, making love begins in the mind and if you don’t ‘condition’ her mind for sex, then chances are she won’t be sexually reciprocating in bed too. Furthermore, women really do need more time than men to reach an orgasm; so foreplay is actually your way of extending your own sexual stamina.

She’s thinking too much!

Women are natural multi-taskers. Unfortunately, they’re so used to thinking and doing several things at the same time that they find it hard to simply be ‘in the moment’ during sex. If most men can be very ‘in the zone’ during sex, women seem to have various thoughts running through their heads all the time (e.g., home chores that need to be done, kids’ homework, dirty laundry, etc.).

She’s full of… insecurities.

Women have many body image issues. While you may adore her, her mind is probably worried about at least three different things as you undress her: Is the light revealing any cellulite? Are my ‘love handles’ protruding? Does he think my breasts are too small/big?

If body image anxiety is not in her head, then she may be thinking about things such as “I didn’t shower yet, I hope I smell good… especially down there.”, or “I didn’t pee. I hope I don’t embarrass myself.”

ALL these thoughts are making her focus on the wrong things! It’s taking attention away from sexual pleasure and into sexual insecurities. And when a woman is in this mode, it’s almost impossible to her focus on reaching her own climax!

She really doesn’t know her own body.

There is a certain art form to making love to a woman’s body. It really does have a lot of mysterious curves, spots and turns. Sadly, many women don’t indulge in a lot of ‘self exploration’ when it comes to sex. As such, it’s hard to guide you on what makes her feel good or which techniques really turn her on. And really, if she doesn’t know her own body, how can you be expected to instinctively know what brings her pleasure, right?

The best thing is… it’s never too late to learn! Why don’t you BOTH explore her body? Don’t rush anything and try everything. See what turns her on best and use that knowledge to make her reach her orgasm. Make it your sexual quest!

here are some clues to save you a few steps… The Female Orgasm Revealed

You’re not paying attention!

True, men are not mind-readers. Unfortunately, many women are not great communicators in bed as well so we have a little problem here. Compounding this problem is of course that favorite female bedroom habit of ‘faking orgasms’. As a result, YOU think that what you’re doing is great when in reality you may not even be close!

To solve this particular problem, try to develop a certain ‘sexual code’ between you two. For instance, a slight squeeze on your arm means “You’re doing great! Pls. keep doing it!”; while nails on your skin or arm mean “enough of that!”. You will receive more squeezes, however, if you know some important facts.

Click here to learn more...The Female Orgasm Revealed

You’re changing ‘techniques’ too fast.

Men like to try different sexual positions and that’s great but sometimes you may be changing just a bit too fast. Women need to get accustomed to a certain ‘rhythm’ before sexual pleasure begins to climb. If you keep shifting positions, she will either (a) never find the position that brings her an orgasm, (b) lose the sexual pleasure she was experiencing in the previous position or (c) be so frustrated that even if you go back to the same position, she may not be that sexually aroused again.

So keep this in mind: when it comes to female orgasm it’s not just location, location, location… it’s also about repetition, repetition, repetition.

Hopefully this list of potential reasons why your partner is not reaching an orgasm paves the way for discussion between the two of you. Don’t focus on why she’s not reaching an orgasm. Instead, focus on what you guys are going to do, so that she does reach her climax. That’s a more positive approach and lot more fun too!

Learn creative and easy ways to do it here…The Female Orgasm Revealed




Saturday, November 12, 2011

do you resent the feeling of needing someone?

We all have our love formulas or expectations when finding and then meeting a partner, you know, that built in formula that has been both programmed and learnt and is hard-coded into our subconscious which is totally subjective and possibly fallacious.

Are you the needy type? do you constantly need reassurance? do you depend on others for your happiness? do you wonder where this comes from? today I will be discussing the topic of emotional dependance and understanding why we act like we do.

When we fall in love, our 'love formulas' are complete little packages that contain all the emotional behaviours and expressions that make up what we interpret as love. We are programmed to see love in a very distinct way. That, I believe is based on the programmed conception of reward and previous learnt emotional experiences. Together, we interpret these as our language of love.

Part of our love formula is the set of paradigms present in order to fall in love. This comes from our expectations of what is attractive to us, like appearance, qualities and values, and with each relationship we are involved in, a new set of 'paradigms' is created, based on the good and bad characteristics and what we want and do not want to repeat. This determines who we are drawn to, the brain starts generating the feel good endorphins and we fall in love.

Another aspect of our love formula is the set of paradigms present in order to feel loved and accepted. We crave love and others to make us happy. This I believe stems from equating love from the basis of the conception and outcome of reward. We were programmed to think reward comes from good behaviour, so as children, we try very hard to please our parents, and we develop expectations to be rewarded for that behavior, which is then construed as love. We are likely to continue this address with a partner in the hope of obtaining a similar reward.

However, everyone interprets love differently! Everyones love formula for the desire to feel loved is totally subjective. Your definative expression of love could be interpreted differently by another. Men and women are programmed in different ways when it comes to what they think is showing love. Women tend to have more emotional needs and men more practical. If these actions are not part of and programmed in our love formula then this can be rejected and lead us to think our partner doesnt care for us. To be emotionally dependant or needy and craving acceptance can be dangerous.

.. and so the plot thickens.. this creates the feeling of resentment, when we place ourselves in a position where what we think we should be rewarded with love, and are disappointed when it isnt. To be 'needy' is a sign that you havent emotionally developed substantially to be able to share a healthy relationship with another.

We all are responsible for our own happiness and feelings of love and contentment. What our partners do or dont do can reinforce the way we interpret any feelings of love and happiness, but ultimately, it is up to each and everyone of us to create our own. Noone can give us that, and noone likes a needy partner.

Love and admire someone for their qualities, the things you share, the company, and not because you are seeking emotional dependance. Every action you do to make yourself self-appreciative is worthy of repeating every chance you get. Does working out make you feel invigorated and alive? Then take up some form of exercise you love and continue. Do you love giving back? Then reap in the joys of joining and supporting your fave organisation. Do you have an unquenchable thirst for knowledge? Then take up new studies or hobbies. The point here is do more of the stuff that makes you shine. Develop your own person and love everything you do! This is, of course, contagious and will rub off into other areas of your relationships. I wish you all the love and happiness in the world. Go for it. You deserve it!!

For further insight into undertanding the concept of the language of love, I highly recommend The Secret Language of Love. It captures beautifully the joy and pain, and the many emotions you will identify with and observed from falling into the romance of love. It comes with delightfully presented and culturally diverse, poems, excerpts and beautiful art.

Friday, November 11, 2011

lick by lick cunniligus book review

Lick by Lick Cunnilingus Book Review

Did you know that for most women, cunnilingus (oral sex) is their preferred sexual act? But with over 6,000 nerve endings in the clitoris, you need to know exactly what you're doing before poking your tongue around there, otherwise it could be really painful and, even worse, spoil the mood! So does Michael's Lick-by-Lick book make the cut? Let's find out…

To be honest, at first glance I thought that a book about going down on women was silly! I mean, you just lick it and keep doing the ABC's until climax, right? I constantly found myself skipping to the techniques section before quickly slapping myself in an attempt to read it properly BUT…

After reading the guide for a few minutes, I realized how clueless I was about women and oral sex. And considering many studies mention that an estimated 50% of women fake orgasms, how would you ever know you're doing it right?

After flicking through a few pages, I am now a believer and was pleasantly surprised by the in-depth detail woven into this book. It covered getting a woman comfortable with the act, persuasive suggestions to make her shave, safety precautions, positions, and yes, many basic and advanced techniques!
So after reading it, I've learned to appreciate some very important details and why men often can't please their girlfriends and wives. The talk about romance, being relaxed and having a stress-free environment really hit home for me and made a lot of sense! (All things alot of guys tend to skip most of the time.)

All in all, Lick by Lick gives any guy the complete knowledge he needs to make any woman reach the big O. Two thumbs up from me!

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Monday, October 31, 2011

devilish tips for great cybersex


the online seduction game, can be fun and exciting and perhaps challenging, we've all been there, for whatever reasons, trying to meet the man or woman of our dreams, however, there are some that are experts and there is equally some that dont have a clue. Most people think that they can get away with saying things online that they normally wouldnt in the real world, and that certainly is true.. things you normally would get slapped for or shocked by suddenly seem more appealing..

Today I will share my personal tips on how to have a great cybering experience. This piece is not for the faint hearted and not for those looking for a life long partner either. Here I talk about how to have great anonymous cybersex with a complete stranger, a faceless individual whom you havent met and possibly for that matter dont have a clue on what he /she looks like (according to Dan and Jen, 91% of online dating profiles are fakes!!)

It's true that cybersex is not for everybody, and it can be emotionally dangerous even if you're not in a committed offline relationship and risking infidelity. But hey.. cybersex is here to stay and we might as well learn how to do it in a way that turns us on and brings us the greatest satisfaction and pleasure.

Ok my tips for fun include:

Find a suitable cybermate. Go visit chatrooms, camrooms, dating sites, etc. you'll find alot of people are in the same situation. My 1st ever cyber encounter 2 years ago came from a personal international chatroom I had installed to run on my site. But any adult chatroom is fine. Camrooms are fine too and are becoming very popular, but watch the charges. I discovered this quite by accident when I picked up a hot Greek chick during my visit to a "free room" but ended up finding out I was billed $380 for a 45 min session. If you dont mind to pay to play then this is OK.

Start chatting if youve just picked up a stranger then its a good idea to start off by engaging in small talk first just to get comfy. During my 1st cyber the world cup soccer was on and I had a brilliant opportunity to talk about that before I started to seduce him. As hot as it may get, for guys I recommend not blowing onto the screen (use a see thru screen protector), and girls, not inserting things like joysticks, mics or monitors. I made that mistake and ended up I needed a new one. It would be damn hard explaining to your PC techie what was causing the keys to get stuck.

Be as wild as you want. Its all about using the imagination and playing with words. Learning how to talk dirty is the basis for great cybering. Whether you are typing with one hand or using a head set, hot words are the core. Read up on some hot erotica to add to the excitement and explore your wildest fantasies. Again when it gets hot, make sure you check your spelling, alot of the time, we are so caught up in the moment that we make silly typos like "Please fork me harder" or "suck on my clint baby"

Relax and enjoy. Its not a marathon, and for gods sake, pay attention to the tempo and whats going on. Dont say "kiss me baby" when obviously the guy is buried balls deep up your ass in doggie possie, unless your a world champion contortionist!! The beauty about cybering too is if its not turning you on and you wanna escape, cyberorgasms can always be faked !! and if you happened to fall victim to premature cybernation and dont feel like typing on and on, you can always pretend your puter has died. At the end of cybersatisfaction (or not) dont forget to say thanks. Thanks can mean two things here, thank god its over or thanks for a really wild time.

Reasons why we have cybersex:

- spur of the moment horniness, when your partner is away and you want to indulge but going out in the real world to look isnt an option for you

- the excitement of having sex with a complete stranger without any risks, sexually or physically.

- the fact that people find it hard to date in the real world, so they create a fantasy in their heads and that fantasy can be just as fulfilling as dating in the real world.

- according to Lance Olsen in "cybersex" "we have sex with machines because we cannot have sex with people"

How common is cybersex?

Well according to a recent internet Dutch study (Royal KPN NV- the largest Dutch net provider), a quarter of boys and 20% of girls have admitted to having cybered. Just like the sexual revolution in the 1960s and 70s of the past century, the internet has made whole new forms of cybering possible, and they are being used for the first time en masse by a new generation of youth.

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Thursday, October 6, 2011

learning how to talk dirty

One of the biggest hurdles to talking dirty is our comfort levels. You may find yourself asking "What does my partner want" or maybe you ask yourself "How Should I Talk Dirty To My Boyfriend?" and then you might think what is going too far, and what isn't going far enough? How do you even know that he will embrace your sexy minx at all? If he's dropped clues or has already talked dirty to you in bed, then you have an idea that he wants you to get a little dirtier. However, for the teddy bear who isn't sure where to start, the whole idea of dirty talk can be a lil intimidating not to mention embaressing!!

Remember, even the best dirty talkers start from somewhere. Start out slow - flirting and sexy body language! Read and watch erotica together. Take notes. Show your lover how much they are turning you on. Slip a sexy note into his pocket or in some surprize spot. Make it short and sweet like "I loved what we did last night" get into his head and let his thoughts run wild. Send him mail at some point when his away, telling him something spicy, a little flirty, and subtle, like: "I love the way you kiss me."

He's probably going to respond, and engage you to talk more, and you should! Don't hesitate to get a bit steamier with him. "I love the way you do that," will make him wonder: What is it that turned her on? And what, exactly? It will get him thinking about the last time the two of you had sex, and that's what we want him thinking. You want him thinking about sex with you, because the more he thinks about it, the more he's going to want to be more eager and crave for more.

When you are in bed, test your dirty talk prowness by trying out anything other than words. Talk to him in sighs, moans and whispers. Show him what you desire with your breathless utterings - show him exactly where and how you want to be touched. Even if you've had sex hundreds of times, showing desire will make it seem like a fresh new encounter.

When the sighs and moans have relayed your message, start talking about his sexy body! Caress his chest, tracing your fingers up and down while you tell him how strong and handsome he looks. Make direct eye contact and ask, "Do you like that, sexy boy? Do you want more?"

The trick is to keep him talking and guide you to the kind of dirty talk he wants to hear. If he gets raunchy and makes you blush, don't stop and slink into silence - instead, show how much its turning you on with sexy moans and answer his hot words with sexy words of your own. Work to build up that unbareable ache until you're saying things that you thought you would never hear yourself say. Watch for his reaction, which will prolly be one of surprize and more great sex.

He will respond favorably to your down and dirty talking, and remember the sky's the limit! You have just shown how sexy you can be and make him desire you and experiment with you even more!

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Tuesday, May 3, 2011

Increasing Sexual Stamina

Are you super short of stamina in bed? Are you overwhelmed with the prospect of having LESS than spectacular sex for the rest of your life?

Being a guy frustrated by the problem of premature ejaculation is bad enough, but it's made a lot worse by the myriad of myths, misconceptions and lies that surround this subject.

These myths can cloud the issue and make it so much harder for you to overcome your endurance shortcoming and pave out a new, more confident and longer-lasting sexual stamina.

Let's put some of the common myths, exaggerations and blatent lies about premature ejaculation to rest once and for all!

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Myth #1 - Premature ejaculation is a sexual disease that has no cure
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Although PE can be clinically diagnosed as a sexual ailment, it is in no way a disease or a form of illness. There are many causes of premature ejaculation, but the key ones are more adequately labeled as psychological or mental issues.

In fact, with the proper conditioning and re-education, you can easily reverse and "unlearn" a lifetime of ejaculation problems that stem from early years when you first discovered your own sexuality.

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Myth #2 - If you ejaculate within 2 minutes, you have premature ejaculation
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This is really subjective. You see, men can be classified as premature ejaculators if they consistently cannot last more than 2 minutes during sex. But if you can bring your woman to an orgasm in less than 2 minutes, then you are really not suffering from PE!

It all depends on whether your woman is fulfilled during lovemaking. If she's truly satisfied even in a rapid sex session, you are way ahead of most men in your sexual performance!

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Myth #3 - You can use "distraction techniques" to last longer in bed
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Well, yes and no. Some men find that thinking of something other than sex can prevent them from getting aroused too soon. But this is not an ideal solution as it distracts you from actually enjoying sex.

Here's a much better way:

=> Increasing Sexual Stamina

Truth is, with some practice, you can experience the full splendor of lovemaking and attain great control over your ejaculation at the same time - without thinking about baseball statistics... or her grandmother!

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Myth #4 - Pills are the best way to treat early ejaculation issues
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Although some pills claim to add hours to your sexual endurance, there is no hard evidence to back this up. In fact there is no FDA-regulated medication or drug on the market that is proven to boost your stamina on bed. Plus, pills are not long-term solutions to fix PE and can be a huge financial drain on your pockets to boot!

So what is the BEST way to fix PE?

Honestly? Every guy is different... and some preventive cures work better on some men than others. If your PE stems from a mental issue, you may want to try cognitive exercises. A physical problem? Often these can be fixed very quickly by practicing specific exercises. And some PE problems can actually be solved by having MORE sex! And others... require a little bit of extra effort in OTHER areas altogether.

The bottom line is....

PE does NOT need become a permanent fixture in your sex life. As a matter of fact, the FASTER you fix it... the happier you are going to be (and your partner too!)

And like what thousands of men have found out, THIS could completely turn your sex life around and reverse a lifetime of embarrassment:

About the author:

Lloyd Lester is the creator of "Ejaculation By Command", a complete, step-by-step blueprint to help men permanently end premature ejaculation and last longer in bed. Learn how you can develop superior sexual endurance and enjoy transformative sex by visiting: Ejaculation By Command.




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Monday, May 2, 2011

Ejaculation Mastery Audio Transcript

What would it mean to your sex life if you have the natural ability to last for hours and give your partner sensational sex, every single time?

Whenever I hear of such claims, I'm always skeptical. I can't help it... lasting for hours just sounds "too good to be true".

Well, someone has made a believer out of me.

=> Outright myths and lies about PE
Audio Transcript Ejaculation Mastery

The simple truth is... sensational stamina can be LEARNED and ACQUIRED.

But for many men, their embarrassment in overcoming premature ejacuation is made a lot worse by the myriad of myths, misconceptions and lies that surround this subject.

These myths can make you lose sight of the REAL issue and make it so much harder for you to overcome your endurance shortcoming.

But not any more.

In a recent interview, Lloyd Lester dispelled ALL of the myths, exaggerations and outright lies about premature ejaculation once and for all... and provide you with REAL, natural solutions that really DO work.

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Sunday, May 1, 2011

Enhanced Sexual Endurance.. Last Longer In Bed

Have you been looking for sex positions that will help you fix premature ejaculation and last longer in bed? There are sex positions that will not only maximize her sexual pleasure, but will also add minutes to your sex without any additional effort! Interested to learn more? I thought so too! Keep reading...

The Best Positions to Last Longer In Bed

Position #1 - "The Surreptitious Female Rider"

This is perhaps the best position for you if you are looking to last longer. Let her mount atop you while having sex. There are 2 advantages to this position:

Greater Control: You can control your arousal completely. This is because this position allows your body to be completely relaxed and stress-free. You are lying on your back and just enjoying the sensations coursing through your body. When you are this relaxed, you can control your arousal whenever you want.

Putting Her In Charge: The best advantage to this position is that she is in charge of the stimulation. Her rhythmic movements might inflame you, but you are in total control of your arousal and you can relax or tighten your pelvic muscles with total ease. How great is that?

Position #2 - "The Reversing Female Rider"

This is another great position you can try out. This is the reverse of Position #1. This is where your partner mounts you, but in a 'facing away' position. You can try this variation after adopting the traditional female rider. It can help vary the stimulation, without losing the fun and pleasure of the act.

So the next time you want to beat premature ejaculation and last longer, without spoiling the fun of the act or making it obvious, try these 2 positions. Vary between the two after a while during lovemaking. This is the best way to enjoy the pleasures that these different positions offer, while maintaining your arousal and erection for a longer time.

How Does A Position Change Help Me Last Longer?

It helps you in 2 ways:

1. Appearing More Dominant: Women like guys to take charge in bed. So, when you change positions every now and then, you are actually increasing your attraction in bed!

2. No Obvious Changes: When you are in the middle of an enjoyable sexual encounter, you don't want to do something to distract or annoy her! Subtly changing positions is the best way to manage your arousal, while not appearing too obvious about it. You can use a number of sex positions to both vary your pleasure and to last longer in bed. Try the two variations above and get more out of that love encounter!

About the author:

Lloyd Lester is the creator of "Ejaculation By Command", a complete, step-by-step blueprint to help men permanently end premature ejaculation and last longer in bed. Learn how you can develop superior sexual endurance and enjoy transformative sex by visiting: Ejaculation By Command.